There’s Always Better!

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“In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on.” —Robert Frost

19 Wise Quotes For a Better Life

  • In every situation, conversation, there is likely always a better way.
  • When you spout a condemning comment, there is a better way.
  • When striking out in anger, there is a better way.
  • When walking out in the middle of a meeting, there is a better way.
  • When enraged with jealousy, there is a better way.

I guess I could list more but I feel that I have made my point.  I believe that there really is a better way in almost every situation. 

Words of anger that I have spoken can never be erased, but, instead of speaking in anger take time out, cool down, then approach the situation in calm.

Striking someone is never the correct way to solve things.  Maybe a better way for me is to just walk away quietly.

Usually after a bad situation and I have had time to think I usually will say, why did I say it that way?  Why didn’t I do that?  My problem use to be, I would do things hastily without correct thought of mind.  The results were devastating for all involved. Now I calmly think before I speak, careful how I write what I am feeling.  Never attacking the person, but instead attacking why the comment or the action was hurtful to me.

So, I am not perfect, no one is, I will put forth an extra effort to always find the better way!

Talking To Myself?

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“Accept everything about yourself–I mean everything, You are you and that is the beginning and the end–no apologies, no regrets.” -Clark Moustakas

Being Honest With Yourself

Today I have been musing over this, what if I could step outside of myself and had a conversation with myself, how would it go?

Would I look at myself and point fingers of regret, mistakes, relationships that soured.  Would I defend myself against the pointing of fingers?  Would excuses trip off the tip of my tongue?  Would I lecture myself about my appearance, the weight gain, for not taking better care of myself?  Yes, what would I see looking at myself?

Or would I give myself a pep talk, telling myself I can do better, that all of those other things are water under the bridge.  Maybe, tell myself the lessons I can take from my past, apply those lessons so I can move forward.

I am not sure how long this conversation would be, would I be stubborn, refusing to listen to myself, or would I accept all of those things that I speak to myself?

I can almost place a date on when I finally started to move forward, seeing progress, light at the end of the tunnel.  Yes, I can put my finger to the point in time.  It was the day I began to accept everything about myself!

May I make a suggestion, take some time and have a talk with yourself, you will be amazed at what may come of it!

Gravity Will Always Be Gravity!

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“NC passed law against global warming science, therefore it’s not happening. So I’m ignoring Twitter’s 140-character limit, so it’s not happ”― Stephen Colbert

https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/climate-change-denial

This post is not my normal focus, but I feel it is dire enough that I should write about this epidemic called “Corona Virus”.

When I was about nine years old my mom and dad went to London, Ontario to find us a place to live.  We were moving because of their new jobs.  That day they left me and my siblings with an aunt and uncle.  In their yard was a big cherry tree and it was drilled into us not to climb the tree. 

My sister and I went against what we were told and decided to climb the tree.  On the way up I had told my sister not to step on the same branch with me.  She didn’t listen, the branch broke and down we went onto some big rocks at the base of the tree.  I ended up with my left arm hanging in a circle. 

My point to this story is this, gravity worked, I could have denied it telling myself I will float upwards towards the clouds.  No matter how much I deny the science of gravity I will never float upwards.

Over the past three decades the world has experienced the bird flu, SARS, and now the corona virus.  It is spreading around the world new positive cases daily, fatalities are ticking upward also daily.

Now there is a new threat beating down our doors, the Corona Virus.  It is spreading rapidly, more and more countries now affected by it.  There is no vaccination for it and that could be one and a half years away.

Large events where there are large number of attendees have been cancelled.  There is even talk that the Olympics could also be cancelled.

 It is of utmost importance that we follow proper hygiene, lots of good hand washing with lots of soap and warm water.

 Some can deny the seriousness of this epidemic but the science should not be ignored.

So, take care while you are going about your daily routines.  Be prepared, have enough stocked up in case there is a blanket quarantine like we are seeing in other countries.  KEEP INFORMED!

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More Insights

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Habits like blogging often and regularly, writing down the way you think, being clear about what you think are effective tactics, ignoring the burbling crowd and not eating bacon. All of these are useful habits. Seth Godin  Read more at https://www.brainyquote.com/topics/blogging-quotes

Once again I am giving some more insights that I learn while blogging in the WordPress community.

  • I wrote before how I like just reading other blogs by doing a search in the reader. Well, I have come up with a name for this, not sure if someone has used it,.  During the spring and summer my best friend and I like going garage sale hopping, so my name for what I do in the reader is this “Blog Hopping”.
  • I have found out that Re-blogging is good”.  It builds bridges, it also supports fellow bloggers.
  • This one you may find a little silly, I once Google My Own Site”, my About Page was on the first page of the search.
  • Last but not least, “Tags, tags, and tags”. I have learned that this is a must tool in a blogger’s writing basket.  

The above three tips are some things I have found useful in my blogging.  Maybe, these may not be new to you, but they are truly new and useful.

How about you, do you have some tools you use in your blogging?  If so, please share some using the comment section.

Happy Blogging!

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Let Me Introduce Myself

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To all my follows, welcome to my blog.

This is now my journal on my journey through all aspects of being a man dealing with being bi-polar.

When I started this blog in 2011 my objective was to write about Biblical things, Scriptures.

It changed almost a year ago, cannot believe it has been that long, when I began to share my story.

A short time ago I created what I call “My Code of Honor“.  If you have not read this I would encourage you to take a moment and read it. Just click on the link above in this paragraph.

I appreciate everyone who share with their comments at the end of each post.  It is cms-265128_640through this conversation that we build relationships with one another, also other bloggers.

 

 

 

 

For my last comment let me just say,

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Name Calling; Psych 101

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“It’s an extraordinary thing about names. You’ve probably noticed it yourself. You think you’ve got them, I mean to say, and they simply slither away. I’ve often wished I had a quid for every time some bird with a perfectly familiar map has come up to me and Hallo-Woostered, and had me gasping for air because I couldn’t put a label to him. This always makes one feel at a loss.”― P. G. Wodehouse  Good Reads- Remembering Someone’s Name

**This is not about bullying, calling names to demean a person.***

Here is something I learned back in the eighties while doing some upgrading.  In a Psych 101 class there was a subject about remembering people’s names.

  • It takes work with memory skills
  • Say the person’s name within the next few sentences.
  • If possible assign an object to the person that is suitable.

I try my level best to use people’s names in conversations, letters, emails, phone calls, etc.,

People love hearing their name spoken.  They remember a person who uses their name, they’re impressed by this.

Dale Carnegie addresses this in his most known book, “How to Win Friends and Influence People”.

This is a simple thing, but, it packs a lot of weight. I used this as a Pastor, I was able to remember the names of most in my congregation.  Also, I would remember returning visitor’s names.

So, to end this on an exercise notion, my name is “Dwain”.

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***I saw the story of this child on the Global National last night.  It will break your heart, they showed a video where the child wishes he was dead.

Hugh Jackman wanted to send Quaden Bayles, the nine-year-old victim of bullies who in a dramatic video declares he wants to die, a message in which he offers his support and friendship. Wolverine’s interpreter has joined other sports and entertainment stars, including Jeffrey Dean Morgan, to condemn bullying that has profound consequences for the victims. […]

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Challenges On The Road To Change

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Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines.     

Robert H. Schuller

Wise Old Sayings/Challenge

Singer, crooner Frank Sinatra sang a song about “Hopes“.

Here are the lyrics:

Next time you’re found
With your chin on the ground
There a lot to be learned
So look around

Just what makes that little old ant
Think he’ll move that rubber tree plant
Anyone knows an ant, can’t
Move a rubber tree plant

But he’s got high hopes
He’s got high hopes
He’s got high apple pie
In the sky hopes

On this road to change are so many challenges, some feel like mountains, others like a raging stream.  So large that I could just throw my hands up and give up.

I know that mountains are not moved all at once, they are moved one stone, one rock, one pail of dirt, at a time.

I can remember how I felt after being in the hospital several years ago for three weeks.  I woke up the next morning surveying the amount of housework that had to be done.  I could have told myself it can’t be done, but I could get it all done little by little.

I now face some new challenges with my mobility having severe issues.  For my back it is helped by having cortisone shots.  Now I have a hip that will be needing cortisone shots also.

There are many issues that I have to surrender and ask for help to get them done.  For me that hits my pride, just one of my personality quirks.

When I was younger challenges made my adrenaline rise.  I would tackle a challenge head on, sometimes only to be knocked on my butt.  Inside though I was happy that I gave it my best shot. 

That was then, now I am not so gung ho about challenges.  Sometimes before going at a challenge I give myself a couple of nights of sleep to think about what is the best way to accomplish the task.

The moral to this post, face challenges wisely, give full thought, and proceed with caution!

201 Follows

I didn’t make much of a fuss when I reached 100 follows. 

For this one I want to thank everyone who has hit the “follow” link!

This truly means a lot to me, all those who encouraged me along the way.  Your comments, hitting the “Like”.

Thank You!

 

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Congratulations on getting 200 total follows on Rethinking Scripture!
Your current tally is 201.

Roads Unseen

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“Truth is mysterious, elusive, always to be conquered. Liberty is dangerous, as hard to live with as it is elating. We must march toward these two goals, painfully but resolutely, certain in advance of our failings on so long a road”. Albert Camus.  Read more at https://www.brainyquote.com/topics/road-quotes

Who knew that the road of recovery would wind, snake, up and down.  Arriving at times at a fork in the road.  Which one should I choose, the left, the right.  No signs to tell me if I take such road that I will be going toward the place I need to arrive at.

Lately, my mind feels like the kids in the back of the car hollering in unison, “are we there yet?”  I try to ignore the chants but the longer I ignore them the louder they become.  They grow so loud to the place where all other things cannot be heard.  They are relentless in their persistence.  At times all I can do is place my face into a pillow and scream loudly.

Deciding on which road leaves me apprehensive of just sitting down and staying put.  I am not going backward, but I am not moving forward either.  I find myself in a deadlock with my decisions.

I should know better, I have made decisions before they turned out great, so what is preventing me from making one now. I am frozen with uncertainty.

There somewhere lost in all the noise is my favorite song of Judy Garland in the “Wizard of Oz”, “Somewhere over the rainbow skies are blue…”

Well tomorrow is another day, more time to analyze my options of which road I should travel!

Positive; Hard Work

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I’ve always believed that you can think positive just as well as you can think negative. James Baldwin
Read more at https://www.brainyquote.com/topics/positive-quotes

Staying positive in a negative world is truly a struggle.

It started Tuesday when I was waiting for a parcel to be delivered by a courier.  At 7 p.m., I receive an email that they couldn’t find the address.  It was like they were without GPS or a phone.  After a phone call to a call center located where unknown I was told that the next delivery is for today, Thursday.

There are those on a spectrum that espoused the theory of “Positive Thinking”.  Yes, they base it on a Scripture, but if the truth be known living in the real world of 2020 negativity rules.

I already lean towards being pessimistic, when I am sent for x-rays, or blood work I automatically start thinking the worse.  I cannot help myself it is just a habit that was developed when I was younger.

If you listen to the political party that is not government you would think that the world is coming to the end, an Armageddon.  That is the only time I will mention politics.  It is like that in most democratic societies, I live in Canada.

 Turn on any news channel and the airwaves are flooded with all things negative. Oh yes, once in awhile there may be one short news article that is positive.  For the ninety nine percent it is utterly negative.

So, I sit here fighting to think positive in a crappy negative world!  Staying positive is hard work!

Like Belly Buttons?

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“The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.”
― Coco Chanel

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Advertisements, talk shows, social media, friends, and family all these have opinions, lots and lots of opinions.  Which ones are the right ones?  Should I follow them?  Take their advice?

There are some who live their whole life around opinion of others.  I know of a person who listens to advertisements, when shopping he only buys name brand products. He believes they are the best, no name, store brands are inferior.  Talk to store managers and they will tell some no name products are produced by the same companies that produce the pricey name brand.  They may even tell you how to find the store brand that matches that overly priced name brand.

I have been lately noticing advertisements on t.v., they imply that if you don’t use their brand you must be an idiot, moron, clumsy, and more.  I sometimes just want to throw something at the t.v. when those ads are shown.

When shopping we want to be in the popular crowd that are wearing a name brand pair of jeans.  Do yourself a favor, compare those jeans to some of the ones that are almost half the price. Pay attention to the quality of stitching, the fabric, and the style You may discover there is no difference between those pair of jeans.

I found that living by the opinions of others is a high level of stress, financial difficulties, just because I wanted to fit in. 

If you have been paying attention to the news you will have been aware of the problems in the United Kingdom.  Their situation of brokering a deal to exit the European Union.  The problem was elevated all because the government decided to have a referendum.  They wanted the opinion of the British population.  When all was said and done a survey found that people regretted of voting yes to leaving the E. U..

Sometimes I have had to make a decision, kick popular opinion to the curb and go by my first instinct.

As a preacher friend of mine use to say, “Opinions are like belly buttons, everyone has one!”

P. S. – Do you follow the opinions of others or do you listen to your own instinct?

On The Lookout!

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I feel confident imposing change on myself. It’s a lot more fun progressing than looking back. That’s why I need to throw curve balls. David Bowie
Read more at https://www.brainyquote.com/topics/looking-quotes

For this post I decided to do something a little different.  I have written about how and why I write.  

Now I would like to jot down some things I look for when I read other blogs.  They may contain all or just one or two.  Then I would like to hear what you look for.

  • Is it relevant
  • Do I relate to it
  • Does it contain information that I can use
  • How do I feel while reading it
  • Would I like to read more from the same blogger
  • Is it a blog that I would tell others about

Those are just some things that I may look for in blogs.

Ask yourself, what is it that I look for in a blog?

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Ninth Year Anniversary

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Happy Anniversary with WordPress.com!

You registered on WordPress.com 9 years ago.

Thanks for flying with us. Keep up the good blogging.

It has been a long nine years, this past 6 months have been the best!

Becoming acquainted with so many of the WordPress community.

 Logging into this blog is the highlight of my day!


The War Is Won One Battle At A Time

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“Anyone who has actually been that sad can tell you that there’s nothing beautiful or literary or mysterious about depression.”
― Jasmine Warga,  My Heart and Other Black Holes

There are days in my life that if I allowed myself I would sit and wallow in my hurts, wounds, and of course, self – pity.

It would be oh so easy to stay down because it would not require any effort or energy on my part.  I could just lay there and roll myself into a cocoon, shut the world out, and never venture to look upwards to see some sunshine. 

I have on occasion spent more time alone sitting in utter darkness not seeing or hearing from anyone.  It could be that I can tolerate long periods of time in my own company.  I have been like that more than I would like to admit.

There are times when I look back and wonder how I could put myself out and center stage to sing or to deliver a message.

I am now quite content just to have a few people around me, no crowds, just one or two that I can visit with.  Sometimes just to sit and watch a program with barely uttering a word to each other.  There are times that I just sit quietly and read a book with soft music in the background.

I love it when my daughter comes and brings the grandchildren to visit, but I admit, I am exhausted, that after they leave I have to take a nap to rest for awhile.  The grandchildren are not toddlers but still have so much more energy and keeping up with them requires all my faculties.

***I know and realize that I may fall seven times, but I cannot stay down, I must get up for the eighth time and press forward.***

Every day that I make it through is one battle won, tomorrow is it’s own battle.  Don’t stay in the cocoon but stick my head up and absorb some sunshine, meditate on something more than myself.  Maybe, speak a word of kindness that brings a smile to someone else.

So, I cannot forget that I can only win the war one battle at a time!

Oh How I Wish!

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“If you live long enough, you’ll make mistakes. But if you learn from them, you’ll be a better person. It’s how you handle adversity, not how it affects you. The main thing is never quit, never quit, never quit.” – William J. Clinton

https://liveboldandbloom.com/11/quotes/regret-quotes

I just saw an advertising where the dad and daughter were playing scrabble which lead to a pillow fight, oh how it looked fun.

I talk about my grandchildren, but I have not spoken much about my divorce, the separation of my daughter and myself. 

When my first wife divorced me we were living in Ontario, Canada.  She decided to move to Saskatchewan,  Canada along with our daughter.  That meant I would not have convenient access to seeing my daughter.  She was a miracle child because her mother was not suppose to have children, especially one where she would go through natural child birth, her pelvic area was too small.  The fear was if she were to go into labor the child could be crushed causing the death of the child and her mother.

Divorce is one thing a couple never dreams about when they take their marriage vows of til death do you part.  Divorce was something that I would never want for I lived to watch my mom and dad go through one.  I wasn’t living at home when it happened but still I felt the sting of it.  I watched what happened to the two youngest siblings during the divorce of my parents.

I have lived with that regret all my life.  All the important events like watching my daughter ride a bicycle for the first time.  Learning to drive, and the all important event, watching her walk down the isle to marry her partner.

There is one thing that happens when you have regrets, you become stagnant, always looking backward.  Afraid of moving forward in life, unable to make commitments, living with a hole in your spirit, becoming a pessimist about life in the whole. 

I have found that there is life after a mistake, a lifting of the cloud on your mind, a way to get back up and move forward in your life.  Learning that your life can be fulfilling, a new zest, sparkle, and hope for my future.

I have constant contact now with my daughter, wonderful times with my grandchildren, filling a new treasure chest with wonderful happy memories. 

So, I can truly say, it may feel like you are stuck in the muck of despair, but it doesn’t have to be a long slog of hurting.  You can pick yourself up and live a life that is fulfilling, filled with joy and enthusiasm!

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