On a Personal Note

This weekend was a complete nightmare for me.  I have osteoporosis and it has been wreaking havoc on my bones.  Over the years I have had several fractures due to it. I feel I may have another one.  My hip has been bothering me since Christmas. I have been seeing my doctor about it for some time now. Fractures mostly show up in x-rays, but, some do not and it requires and Cat scan or MRI. My doctor as of yesterday is now ordering one or the other of those tests.

So, I have basically been down in bed because it was the best place for me to deal with the extreme pain.  Thus, it is the reason why my presence has not been on here for a couple of days.  I have an excellent idea in mind for a post and I am hoping that a new med will help with the pain.

So dear reader, if my posts seem spotty please know that I really want to read all the posts that I follow.  So many to read it may take some time to catch up.

A Reblog: PTSD Awareness Day — James Pack

June 27 is PTSD Awareness Day and June is National PTSD Awareness Month. There is a misconception that only service members in the Armed Forces can get PTSD. Anyone can have Post-Traumatic Stress. This can happen after any type of trauma such as being robbed or assaulted. It is not exclusive to military combat. People […]

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Which One Are You

the four temperaments

I first came across these personality types back in the late seventies, early eighties. It may have been in a Pysch 101 class during some upgrading.

I have done many different tests and I always come up with the same conclusion, “Phlegmatic”.

So, I thought I would put it to you to try some of the different sites that offer a test. If for nothing else something to try taking your mind off of the covid-19 pandemic.

Here are some sites that you can test yourself to see what personality type you are:

  1. OSPP Four Temperaments Test

  2. Four Temperaments Test


If you are comfortable I would like to hear the results of your test.  This is not serious, but who knows, it may give you a new insight into your personality.

So dear reader start your test now!

Mystery Blogger Award

mystery blogger award

I would like to say thank you to Cherie at Chateau Cherie   for nominating me for the Mystery Blogger Award. Her blog focuses on Bullying. If you have never read any posts by Cherie I would encourage you to check her blog out.

Also, to the creator The Mystery Blogger Award, James A, Best.

…Doing what it takes to pull you into each and every blog is something I take serious and respect your time to read what I write. Most of the time I admit to knowing what story I want to put forward for your eyes to swallow up whole. Those experiences were the most fulfilling for me. Each word just tumbled out of my mind and soul. It was weird in a way like I had actually went through my fictional blog.

The Mystery Blogger Award Rules :

1. Put the award logo on your blog.

2.Thank the blogger who nominated you and provide a link back to their blog.
James A. Best- Author

3.mention the creator of the award and write his words out.

4. Answer the five questions you were asked.

5.Tell the readers three things about yourself.

6.Nominate 10 to 20 Bloggers for this award.

7. Notify your Nominees by commenting on any of their blog posts.

8.Ask your nominees five questions with one weird or funny one.

9. Share a link back to your best posts.


My 5 Questions for my Nominees :

1.What is your favorite past time ?

2. What is your favorite book to read ? Why ?

3. Who do you think will out smart the other the Road Runner or Daffy Duck ?

4. What would you be doing on a rainy day ?

5. What is your favorite type of music to listen to ?

6.  What advice would you give to someone new to the WordPress community?

My Nominees are:

  1. https://getthemysteriousblogger.com/
  2. https://passcodelove.com/
  3. Peter Springer @: https://petespringerauthor.wordpress.com/
  4. Mark Wester @:  https://over-coming-ocd.com/
  5. Ashley L. Peterson @: https://mentalhealthathome.org/
  6. Leola Durant @:  https://leoladurant.com/
  7. https://consideringthebible.com/
  8. Vincent Ehindero @:  https://vincentehindero.wordpress.com/
  9. Bella @https://bellasbabbles.com/
  10. Vee @: https://millenniallifecrisis.org/


A Reblog: Hatred From An Unlikely Source – Internalized Homophobia — Overcoming OCD

Did you know that gay and bisexual man are 4 times more likely to commit suicide than the rest of the population? Or that LGBT+ are one and a half times more likely to develop depression and anxiety than heterosexuals? June is Pride Month and I think this is the perfect time to talk about […]

via Hatred From An Unlikely Source – Internalized Homophobia — Overcoming OCD

Use To Your Own Detriment!


“Hate is too great a burden to bear. It injures the hater more than it injures the hated.”
― Coretta Scott King

I have a relative that must take baths in hate.  A grievance collector that never forgets who did what, who said what.  Revenge is something that this person give constant thought of how to go about it.

“Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.”

Mark Twain

It is my understanding that the person suffers from other ailments, digestion being the major one.

I have another relative that was having stomach troubles, had to get a prescription to stop the pain after eating. The relative went to see a specialist, the first thing he asked, “what is eating you”? Notice he did not want to know what they were eating.  It was true that the person was harboring ill feelings towards someone who had wronged them.

I learned a long time ago that it does nothing to hold extreme hatred or anger over what someone has done to them.  When I have been wronged I just move on.  Now do not misunderstand, I do get angry sometimes, but I do not give it free space within my mind.

“If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you’re allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind.”
― Shannon L. Alder

My father and I were never close, I really do not have any fond memories about him with me.  He had anger issues and when triggered it could get physical, usually I ended up being the punching bag.

In around 1980 I had just started travelling with the evangelist, we were in a Christian TV studio holding a crusade in Detroit, Michigan.  One afternoon my father showed up to a meeting. 

After the meeting he asked if we could go for coffee.  I agreed hoping that maybe something new would happen between us.  We ended up in a mall walking around and talking.  I spotted a Music store that had pianos, organs, etc.,. I told my father, “Watch this“.  I walked over to a digital piano that was on display outside of the store door.  I turned it on and started to play it.  A crowd started to gather, so with glee I continued for awhile.  The store didn’t mind me doing so. I guess they figured that maybe they would end up with some sales.  We then walked away and my dad asked me, “when did you learn to play like that”?  I just smiled on the inside even though I wanted to give a snide remark. 

I have not seen my dad since the late eighties for my own mental health stability.  I do not wish him any harm, nor do I hold any ill feelings towards him.

My way of working through anger may not fit you, the reader.  It is a personal thing that each individual has to wrestle with it in their own way.

So dear reader I hope that maybe something I wrote on this post will give you some ideas on how to manage anger!

A Reblog: Mental Talk and Self Identity — No Stress

Mental Talk and Self Identity Self and Society In order to function on a daily basis we all need a measure of relaxation. We need to think positive in order to relax. Because the world is full of problems, we often face many challenges from society and world leaders. At times when we feel distressed,…

via Mental Talk and Self Identity — No Stress



“To share your weakness is to make yourself vulnerable; to make yourself vulnerable is to show your strength.”Crissi Jami

Last night as I was laying in bed the word “Vulnerable” came to my mind.

vul·​ner·​a·​ble | \ ˈvəl-n(ə-)rə-bəl  ˈvəl-nər-bəl \

Definition of vulnerable

1capable of being physically or emotionally wounded
2open to attack or damage ASSAILABLE vulnerable to criticism
3liable to increased penalties but entitled to increased bonuses after winning a game in contract bridge

I began to mull this over in my mind and several thoughts came into focus.

For most of my adult life I have been very closed to allowing anyone to get to close to me.  I suppose I didn’t want to be hurt, or betrayed. In the past I have been both, hurt and betrayed.

I began to build walls to keep others out, but those same walls kept me from going out. It was like a bird in a cage.  It’s movement is somewhat restricted.

It is terrible to go through life questioning everyone’s motive, distrust becomes a constant companion.

When I started this blog I didn’t write anything about myself, I did not want to make myself a target, I didn’t want to become vulnerable to attacks.

These past couple of years since I began writing about my struggles with mental health issues has been quite a revelation to me.  I purposely made myself vulnerable, I opened my emotions to unknown readers, unknown people. 

I have been amazed because what happened was nothing like the things I was thinking would happen didn’t. What I have found that ninety-nine percent of people are caring, understanding, thoughtful, warm.  I was expecting negativity and instead I received positive.  Becoming vulnerable was something that brought about good.

I truly understand those who are going through emotions about becoming vulnerable, afraid of criticism, mocking, and betrayal.  Opening up by writing in a blog would not be my first choice to present myself as vulnerable.

So dear reader, just maybe open yourself up, make yourself vulnerable, take a chance.  Like in the movie, one line comes to mind, “Baby steps, baby steps”!(What About Bob)



The man who insists upon seeing with perfect clearness before he decides, never decides. Accept life, and you must accept regret. Henri Frederic Amiel
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Healing is a strange slow moving process.  When I had a broken arm they knew it because of an x-ray.  To determine how well it was healing they used the same process.

Healing for the mind is a much different beast.  Any type of imaging will not show the breakdown within that human computer.

I know some people who just don’t talk about what is happening within them.  They keep it pent up, brewing, seething, eating away at them.  I have learned that this begins to show itself with physical ailments.  They are a walking volcano that nobody has a clue just when it will erupt spewing all the emotions on anyone within reach. 

Some in my own family do not talk about relatives who have died.  I heard or read somewhere that the best way to keep someone alive is to talk about them.  I talk constantly about my mother, grandmother, grandfather, and others. It brings back warm emotions that counter-act any negativity that might be trying to take root.

I have also come to terms with regrets in my past.  I cannot travel back in time to change any situation, yet, I cannot move forward with my attention always looking backward. So, to move forward is to come to peace with all those regrets.

When I was younger and heard someone talk about a journal I always pictured it as something a young woman would do.  I now know that journal-ling can aid in the healing of the mind.  I do not regret starting this blog, it has allowed me to express my emotions with a positive outcome. 

So dear reader, I have learned healing takes time. It also comes in many different forms.  All I can tell you is just go with the processing!

A Reblog: Use These Tips To Eliminate Your Stress (4) — No Stress

Use These Tips To Eliminate Your Stress Wouldn’t life be great if there were no such thing as stress? Well, believe it or not, we do need some stress in our lives. It’s when stress levels rise too high or are present all the time that stress becomes a problem. Integrating some of the following…

via Use These Tips To Eliminate Your Stress (4) — No Stress


Image by John Hain from Pixabay

Life only demands from you the strength that you possess. Only one feat is possible; not to run away. Dag Hammarskjold

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I will soon be fifty-nine years old, no birthday parties, no gifts, just a run of the mill day for me. At this age comes with it the ability to reflect on your life, it’s ups, it’s downs, the battles lost, the battles won.

For most of my life I was not great at managing things, time, rest, exercise, and oh yes, money.  I was almost hopeless with my finances, as the idiom goes “money burns a hole in my pocket”.  So, you can imagine the rest from here, needless to say I would jump every time the phone rang.

Life will demand a lot in your life, school, career, marriage, family, and if time allows relaxation.  Sometimes I would think I needed to have six more arms and hands.  I look back on those days and truly wonder how I made it to my thirties without going bonkers.  Then when I did break it was in grand style.

I look at the world then I scratch my head, thinking how are the children able to function normally.  So many things hollering for their attention, cell phones, computers, social media, school peers and all things education. I think to myself, it may sound selfish, but I wouldn’t want to have to attend school in this day and age.

It is my understanding that most people will have at least two careers.  My father’s generation had just one job from the time they left school until they retired at the age of sixty-five.  I have been told that even with a degree out of college does not guarantee you a great paying job.  I know people who have degrees who are working at jobs for minimum wage.  For that position they are over qualified.

In the early nineties I flipped burgers, then became a breakfast manager. I remember during orientation being told for every person who quits there is a thousand people waiting to take their place.

So dear reader, take this from an old man, life will be bumpy, there will be highs, lows, laughs, and tears.  Like an old preacher said to me, “what don’t kill you will make you stronger”. I have learned that to be true!

Don’t Give Up or Give In!

In The Name Of Racism?

Handcuffed Arrest


“No matter how big a nation is, it is no stronger than its weakest people, and as long as you keep a person down, some part of you has to be down there to hold him down, so it means you cannot soar as you might otherwise.”Marian Anderson, singer

Some questions I would like to ask a racist.

  1. Who taught you racism, your mother, your father, someone else in your family?
  2. Does it make you feel better when you step on others so that you look big?
  3. Is your self-esteem so low that picking on the innocence’s?
  4. What are you hiding about yourself that you don’t want others to know about?
  5. Do you think being around LGBTQ will give you a disease?
  6. You do know that were are all human, that we all have two arms and legs, etc.,?
  7. Do you really believe that a black family moving into your neighborhood will cause land properties to go down?

So dear reader we must start treating each other as equals.  We are not superior or inferior to others.  We all want love, want to belong, to be understood.  Yes, it is time to start, to start now!


This Isn’t My Father’s Generation


“Pit race against race, religion against religion, prejudice against prejudice. Divide and conquer! We must not let that happen here.”
― Eleanor Roosevelt

There is a tug-of-war happening around the world sparked by a video showing a cop with his knee on a black man’s neck.  In eight minutes, forty-six seconds George Floyd was dead.

On one end of the rope is some white people who are trying to pull the world backwards into one where they are superior.  One white man especially doesn’t want America to move forward, he would rather go back to a time where Black people didn’t have any rights, an America where Black people were considered less than a human.

Now on the other end is a new generation tugging to bring the world into a world where all men are truly equal, no more, no less.  These are the ones you see on the news channels marching in the streets all around the globe.  Signs with “Black Lives Matter”, “Defund the Police”.  In the multitudes there is a wide spectrum of people. Young, old, white, black, gay, straight, transgender, etc., are on a grass roots mission to bring the world into the twenty-one century.

So dear reader, if 2020 ends without any progress then all those voices crying for justice has been in vain!

Special Note

For the past month or more I have been struggling with severe pain in my hip.  My doctor feels it is bursitis.  This has hampered my mobility around my house.  I haven’t been able to sit up for any great lengths of time.

It is the reason for many reblogs on my blog. If I don’t seem to get around to your comments etc., I hope you will understand.

I saw the doctor today and he wants to give me a stronger strength of cortisone.  He also prescribed for about a week, Tylenol 4 for controlling the pain.

I took two right after I had the prescription filled and for the moment the pain is bearable.

So, please know I can’t wait until I can log on more often than I have done in the past weeks.

I consider everyone here in the WordPress community as friends, family!

A Reblog: Eclipsing the Mind: The Most Common Mental Health Disorders Today — No Stress

Eclipsing the Mind: The Most Common Mental Health Disorders Today Statistics about mental health problems are now becoming more increasingly alarming. The key factors in the apparent rise in mental health cases have not yet been fully determined. In fact, authorities may have released inaccurate figures since people tend to hide mental illness or ignore…

via Eclipsing the Mind: The Most Common Mental Health Disorders Today — No Stress

A Reblog: They Exist — World Through The Eye Of A Master Procrastinator

Equality. A term we all are familiar with. I believe equality is something that should exist at every level of our existence. Equality at our homes , at our workplace , among people , among our friends. And all over the world. Equality , like every other taxonomical aspect , has different variants :- * […]

via They Exist — World Through The Eye Of A Master Procrastinator

A Reblog: Some Surprising Mental Illness Statistics — Mental Health @ Home

While I know that people tend to be somewhat skeptical of statistics, I thought it would still be interesting to explore some of the stats that are out there related to mental illness. Centre for Addiction and Mental Health (CAMH) These figures come from CAMH in Toronto, Canada, on their Facts and statistics page. Mental […]

via Some Surprising Mental Illness Statistics — Mental Health @ Home

A Re-Blog: Psychiatric Medication Pitfalls — Blogger Community

I’ve spent much of my mental health posts discussing symptoms, treatments, breaking stigma, and ways to ask for or offer help. What I’ve been reluctant to address because there is so much stigma-and yes, many pitfalls- are psychiatric medications to treat conditions like bipolar disorder and depression. I am a firm believer in medication, when […]

via Psychiatric Medication Pitfalls — Blogger Community

Don’t Worry, They Won’t Bite…lol


“Sharing will enrich everyone with more knowledge.”
― Ana Monnar

There is one area of blogging I would love to see used more, the comment section.  I love the back and forth that it creates.  Sharing our thoughts openly without worry of being rejected.

I sometimes receive more likes from comments I have made on other’s blogs.  Some comments are light banter, some serious, and some just thoughts about the post I just finished reading.

So dear reader, go ahead, share your thoughts, use that comment section.  Don’t worry they won’t bite!

A Wannabe Journalist…


A blog is the unedited voice of a person.

The lack of editing is central, because it’s one person who’s responsible for every word. When you click the Publish button you should feel butterflies, at least sometimes, because there’s no one to pass the buck to. If someone else wrote the headline, or did a copy edit, or even reviewed what you wrote and critiqued it before it went out, it’s still writing, but it is not a blog.  Dan Kennedy – Medium.com

I believe I was living in Kitchener, Ontario when I saw an advertisement about looking for people who are interested in being on radio, etc., This was still in the age of Commodore 64.  I answered the ad and they setup an interview with me to do a test with radio script.  They told me I had the right type of voice to do radio.

Everyone once in awhile I look at the idea of doing some type of podcast, an internet radio station like what Shoutcast offers.

Just over two years ago this blog was barely breathing, I was thinking about just closing out the account.  I am not really sure how I came to start writing about my struggles with my mental health.  So I started to write about my journey.  It went slow for quite some time, but then I started to see some movement with the blog.  I was totally flabbergasted on how it started to go.  I knew nothing about “Categories and Tags”, then somehow I connected with V. She was gracious and explained how they worked. 

I have often thought that being a true journalist would be a great career, I had the English credits on my High School transcript.  I love reading, yet I really never thought of myself as a great writer.  I am starting to notice a difference with my writing. I believe it is because writing is like a muscle, it needs to be used, strengthened. 

So dear reader, this blogger is a wannabe journalist. It is you who gives me wind to continue writing on this blog!


A Re-blog: When Your Brain Is Drained – OCD & Mental Exhaustion — Overcoming OCD

Have you ever felt emotionally drained or had the impression that your problems are impossible to overcome? Have you ever had the feeling that you do not care about anything anymore and you’re just way too tired to do things that you used to enjoy? Well, I guess most of us have had similar feelings […]

via When Your Brain Is Drained – OCD & Mental Exhaustion — Overcoming OCD

A Re-blog: Relaxation and Meditation Exercises — No Stress

Relaxation and Meditation Exercises After a day’s hectic schedule of meeting deadlines, attending meetings, preparing different documents, and so on, you will always be looking forward to going home and relaxing. There are many ways to relax, and one method that is quite effective is meditation. How will you do it? Perhaps you’ve already heard…

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Issues, Issues, Tissues?


Image by Gerd Altmann from Pixabay

“A person who doesn’t understand both sides of an issue can’t relate to the side he is trying to sway, so his words will bounce off of them without leaving any impression.”― Daniel Willey

Life is full of complex issues, issues in relationships, work, school, marriage, children. There are probably so many more that probably would fill up the space on this blog.

There are issues that I care deeply about and ones I would love to write about. complex issues within mental health.  Issues within the communities of the Gay community, the indigenous, battered women, and so much more.

I have had friendships with many in those diverse groups.  Lost several friends to due to AIDS, I have a native friend with issues concerning alcohol, have talked to many women who have been battered, mental health within the Faith community. My life has many complex sides, it has given me many insights to all those issues that I care about.  Mental health is an issue that every person, ill or healthy, all deal with their mental health.  How they handle such challenges, some overcome those challenges, others find escape with drugs, alcohol. Others who with some wisdom sought out medical help.  I realize I write from a Canadian perspective, but it is my understanding that many in the U. S. A. finances dictate whether they receive help.

Sometimes people are uncomfortable dealing head on with the issues in their life.  I know I was, I had a very rough time opening up about what was going on within my head.  I now use writing on this blog as a type of therapy.

So dear reader every once in awhile I will try to tackle some of these issues that I truly care about.  Not advice, definitely not medical advice, but rather the insight I have gained from my life.

Pride, Prejudice, Psychology!


“Understand that sexuality is as wide as the sea. Understand that your morality is not law. Understand that we are you. Understand that if we decide to have sex whether safe, safer, or unsafe, it is our decision and you have no rights in our lovemaking.”
― Derek Jarman

Pierre Elliot Trudeau: {1967} ‘There’s no place for the state in the bedrooms of the nation’

      1. 1.
        preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experience.
        “English prejudice against foreigners”


I have been giving this post a lot of thought over the past several days.  I wanted the best quotes I could find about the subject. The first one is new to me, but, the second one is from the Senior Prime Minister Trudeau, which I learned about in high school.

I feel safe in saying that many of us have preconceived ideas about one thing or another.  Where did we learn these things, from our parents, peers, school, reading, or television.

Imagine if our preconceived idea of seeing a man and woman holding hands was repulsive.  Maybe denied insurance coverage for being a heterosexual being, or portrayed on tv shows as some type of freak.  Now, how would you feel? Some would hide the fact of their sexuality, pretend to be gay, or just outright be proud of being heterosexual.

Now how would your mental health be doing?  Over time not so good, thoughts of depression, inferiority feelings, to the point to where there is contemplation of suicide.

I believe I have described the life of a LGBTQ person over the past forty years. Here are some facts from Homewood Health

LGBTQ+ Mental Health Facts1:

  • Members of LGBTQ+ communities face higher rates of depression, anxiety, obsessive-compulsive and phobic disorders, suicidality, self-harm and substance use
  • Members of LGBTQ are twice as likely to experience childhood maltreatment, interpersonal; violence, and personal loss
  • The risk of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) within the LGBTQ+ community is double that of those that identify as heterosexual
  • Sexual minority individuals are two and a half times more likely to attempt suicide and are one and a half times more likely to have depression and anxiety than heterosexual peers
  • LGBTQ+ youth face approximately 14 times the risk of suicide and substance abuse as heterosexual peers
  • Some research suggests that abuse of alcohol, tobacco and other substances may be two to four times higher among those that identify as LGBTQ

So dear reader, when you are thinking some preconceived idea about a person, persons, gender, think about this post!

Teach Me, Let Me Learn Part Two

Image by Gordon Johnson from Pixabay

“Mental illness is not something you misunderstand in this era. Get educated because bias is no different than racism.”
― Shannon L. Alder

Racism is a learned trait.  Go to any school yard and you likely to find two little boys playing together.  What is noticeable one will white the other African American.  There is not one sign of racism between them.

“I hate racial discrimination most intensely and all its manifestations. I have fought all my life; I fight now, and will do so until the end of my days. Even although I now happen to be tried by one, whose opinion I hold in high esteem, I detest most.”
Nelson Mandela

Growing up I was blessed to have two great examples of lives who were empty of racism, my mother, and my maternal grandmother.  I always knew I could take my friends to either home without any racial remarks being made.  My mother had two rules about our friends. First, she had to meet them, second was that she had their phone numbers.  Never once did she tell us we couldn’t be friends with certain people.

I also grew up living with someone who was very racist, I call him Archie Bunker the second.  He wouldn’t say much around my mother, but away from home he truly showed it.

Racism comes in all colors, backgrounds, and cultures.  However, the upfront form of racism is towards black people.  Things looked like they were going to be different because of the Civil Rights Act in 1964.

Lyndon Johnson Signs Civil Rights Act of 1964. The Civil Rights Act of 1964, the most sweeping civil rights legislation since Reconstruction, prohibited racial discrimination in employment and education, and outlawed segregation in public facilities. from History.com

The next group that has suffered racism is the Gay community.  For years homosexuality was defined as a mental illness.  It was finally removed from the Mental Health illness list.

the American Psychiatric Association (APA) — the largest psychiatric organization in the world — made history by issuing a resolution stating that homosexuality was not a mental illness or sickness. This declaration helped shift public opinion, marking a major milestone for LGBTQ equality.

For years they fought for the same civil rights that every heterosexual couple had, marriage.  On June 27, 2015 The Supreme Court ruled that Gay couples could now be legally married in all fifty states of America.

The US Supreme Court has ruled that same-sex marriage is a legal right across the United States. from BBC.com

If we ever reach a point to eradicate racism throughout every country people must come together and learn about each other, understand each other.

I have in my life experience first hand how First Nations people live, their hopes, their dreams, and their struggles.  I lived on a First Nations reserve, served with a Pastor who was a First Nation person.  On the books of a town near where I was raised had a law that a First Nation person could not stay overnight.  For years it was illegal to sell alcohol beverages to First Nation people.  All of this happened on Canadian soil.

So dear reader, let’s make an honest effort to end racism before this century is over! Change must start now!