Dear America, My Letter to You

This post today is not related to issues about mental health. Rather it is a letter I have written because every time I watch the news I keep asking myself, “what happened”.

It is not about who to vote for, Republican, Democrat, or Independent. It is just myself putting my thoughts on paper.

I hope you will take a few minutes to read this, be assured I am not making a political statement.


Dear America:

I have been thinking about writing to you for quite some time.

I grew up with the skyline of a great American city, Detroit, Michigan.  As an adult I traveled through your great country. I found people were friendly, always had a kind word. There was a point in my life while in the state of California that I was thinking about moving into America.

It is now forty years since I was in your country, I keep thinking where did America go that now it is barely recognizable.  How did good Americans allow what is now happening from the Atlantic to the Pacific Shores.

Have you forgotten that great song penned by Woody Guthrie, “This land is your land, this land is mine land”. You have been through many terrible events since the inception of America. Civil War, Vietnam, 9/11, you were resilient working together to overcome all of those.

America you were not afraid of hard work, putting in place a rail system that stretch from East to West through the Rocky Mountains.

America let me ask you, when did it become us versus them, division of classes, and color of the skin.

Look out your windows, see what is happening in your streets, violence, shootings, places set on fire.  All these incidences are tearing apart the very fabric of your nation.

So America let me remind you of part of a speech given by former President Barak Obama at the 2004 DNC convention:

Well, I say to them tonight, there is not a liberal America and a conservative America — there is the United States of America. There is not a Black America and a White America and Latino America and Asian America — there’s the United States of America.

Sincerely,

A Canadian who is very concerned.

The Interview with Mental Health @ Home

I am not sure how I became aware of the blog Mental Health @ Home but it has become a must read daily.

You can be sure when you read a post from her blog that she has done her research, knows her material which lends to her credibility.

So I am happy that she agreed to be the first of I hope many more to come, The Interview.


Here is the interview:

Interview Questions

  1.       1.Apart from your bio on your blog what is something that maybe others would love to learn about you? 
  2. I’ve shown some of this in blog posts, but I did a lot of travelling in my 20s and 30s.  I’ve been to 4 continents besides my own, and I’ve been to 37 countries, if I recall correctly.
  3.       2.What is one value that you were taught as a child growing up?
  4. I’m sure there are things that were more profound, but one thing I really appreciate is the value of saving and living within one’s financial means.  That has served me extremely well in my adult life.
  5.       3.On the topic of values, which value would you like society to start using, and why?
  6. Society seem to be really short on empathy, and that fuels intolerance and the whole nine yards.  I’ve always thought that if more people traveled internationally and saw the different ways in which people live, they would understand that there’s more to humanity than just their narrow corner of it.
  7.       4.If you could, what advice would you tell a future version of yourself maybe ten years from now?
  8. To be honest, I don’t want to still be around in 10 years, so I don’t really have any words of wisdom or inspiration for my older self.  I know that sounds a bit morbid, but depression does not make for a cheery future.
  9.       5.What are the circumstances that led you to start a blog on WordPress?
  10. It was in fall 2017, and I wasn’t working much because of my depression.  I’d terminated my friendships with all but one person (I think; I don’t recall the exact timing).  Anyway, I had lots of time but not much to do, and somehow blogging popped into my head. I knew absolutely nothing about blogging at the time, so it was a matter of figuring it out as I went along.
  11.       6.Why did you choose your focus on “Mental Health”? Was it your profession, or from personal experience? 
  12. It was some of both, but probably more the personal element than the nurse element.  The combination worked well, though.  I also like to keep learning new things, and I have lots of practice looking things up from grad school, so it’s interesting for me to write posts about things that are new or only slightly familiar to me.
  13.       7.Where do you see your blog going in five to ten years from now?
  14. I have no idea.  I’ve stopped planning for the future, because my illness Is going to do its own thing regardless of what plans I may or may not have.  Instead, I just take things as they come along, and do what seems like a good fit at the time.  Right now, I’m content with my blog as it is, so I’ll just cruise along like this until something changes.
  15.       8.If you were told that you needed to choose some other choice to blog about it what topic would that be?
  16. I don’t have enough to say on a regular basis about any other topic.  But pseudoscience and social justice are probably the main side topics one my blog.
  17.       9.Some people write as a means of self-healing, others write because of their formal education, others just to write about their lives. Which category would your blog belong?
  18. I guess it would be self-healing.  I don’t generally write much about my day to day life.  Initially, that was a preference, I just don’t have enough happening in my life to write about it.  I’m not sure self-healing would be the right term either, because I’m not using the blog to work through stuff from the past.  Mostly, I think it gives me something meaningful to do to occupy my time, and it’s a way to connect with other people.
  19.       10.What is something that you find gratifying after you write a post on your blog?
  20. I always like when people interact with a post, whether that’s liking or commenting.  And it’s especially cool when people take away from a post something that’s relevant to them that they weren’t familiar with or hadn’t thought of before.
  21.       11.Last question.  What would you advise someone who is seriously thinking about starting a blog?
  22. I’d say learn from what other bloggers have to say, but make decisions based on what actually works for you.  Trying to blog based on what you think others expect from you is a quick way to burn out.

So dear reader I hope you will find a couple of minutes out of your busy day to visit Ashley’s blog: Mental Health @ Home

Busted Spirit On The Mend

“It is a better thing by far that the lad should break his neck, than that you should break his spirit.”
― Robert Louis Stevenson


It was in the late eighties just a year or two before I tried to commit suicide the issue I wanted to end was that my spirit was totally broken, crushed.

I left the ministry, a second marriage on the rocks, worried about my daughter who was coping diabetes. All those events felt like the four walls were closing in.

At times in the past twenty-five years I feel envious of this millennial generation because they have no barriers about issues like those of my generation didn’t speak about publicly. Subjects like marijuana, gay life style, living common law, from the surface they are more at ease with the those issues.

I recognize that they still have their issues, break ups, depression, body image shaming, low esteem. As I read many of the blogs in this WordPress community I admire how many feel totally free to bare their souls without fear.

In the sixties the young were seen as rebellious, named by the those looking inward “hippies”. Love ins, men with long hair, smoking pot, loud rock concerts. It was that generation who protested the war in Vietnam. Every night on the evening news footage showing them protesting everywhere including in front of the White House.

I have found that when someone has a broken spirit they turn to self-harm, alcohol, hard drugs, the list too long to put in one post.

A broken spirit is not so easy to heal, when it does the scars can be raw and easily ripped opened. There are still some scars that if I am not careful they get ripped opened. A drama who is portraying certain subjects brings about a tidal wave of negative emotions.

I have at times have asked friends who without knowingly bring up a subject to please find something else to chat about.

So dear reader if you are one of those with a broken spirit there can be a light at the end of the tunnel. There is no shame in having one, if you have a friend who you can trust wholly reach out, start a conversation, unload to them for in so doing your broken spirit will start to mend.


Being Resolute!

It is only through labor and painful effort, by grim energy and resolute courage, that we move on to better things. Theodore Roosevelt
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Resolute: Use the adjective resolute to describe a purposeful and determined person, someone who wants to do something very much, and won’t let anything get in the way.

From Source:https://www.vocabulary.com/dictionary/resolute

It was while reading an article of Chateau Cherie’s “The Importance of Confidence” is where I found the inspiration for the topic of this post. Thank you Cherie!

Anyone who as been around me for awhile will notice I can be stubborn at times. No I am not mean, or cannot be reasoned with. The area where my stubborn streak appears is when I am trying to accomplish a task.

I can point to the things that I have accomplished I can point to several things.

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  • Taught myself the piano
  • Then while travelling on the road learned to play the organ, a Hammond B3 with a Leslie speaker.
  • Learned my way around personal computers. I was working for a not for profit here as office manage. They had a computer which at that time was Windows 3.1. When I had quiet times I would tinker around the software learning the in’s the out’s of it. The lawyer for the organization gave me the push to move forward. He said “go ahead you can’t break it”. The office needed some type of fax machine, so I dig in and eventually add a fax feature to the computer. I set it up to receive faxes between midnight and eight int the morning. I began letting contacts know about it and it worked straight out of the gate.

There are many more things where my resolute brought about great accomplishments. My mother learned about how to use my stubbornness to get me to do things. All she would have to say to me is “you cannot do that”. Well that was like fighting words to me. I would set about showing her that I indeed could do that which she said I couldn’t.

I guess what I am trying to say is being stubborn is not a bad trait, it can actually be good in favor to us. Being resolute can move us forward, shakes off the fear that leaves us frozen in one place, one time, not looking to the past.

So dear reader if you are like me, stubborn, take it, use it to move you forward to accomplish great things. You will never know until you actually try!

Breaking The News

“The advice I’d give to somebody that’s silently struggling is, you don’t have to live that way. You don’t have to struggle in silence. You can be un-silent. You can live well with a mental health condition, as long as you open up to somebody about it, because it’s really important you share your experience with people so that you can get the help that you need.” Demi Lovato


The other night I was talking with my daughter somewhere during the conversation it turned to mental health. She already knew I was bi-polar but what I was about to tell her was that I tried to commit suicide by taking an overdose of sleeping pills, Amitriptyline. I also told what led up to the mental health condition I was in.

I still know the city where I was living, Cambridge, Ontario, the street I lived on, Cedar Str. Down one block was a Tim Horton’s Donut store, going in the opposite direction was a Sobey’s Grocery Store.

I can remember vividly about my first night in the Mental Health Ward there. The reason being is that during a group session they had us watch the movie “Groundhog Day”. To me it made no sense of why we were watching. It was still back then that you could smoke in the hospital. They had a dedicated room for the smokers, it usually was filled with blue smoke, the smell of nicotine heavily filled the room.

After I was discharged I just couldn’t stay in Ontario for one simple reason I didn’t want my family to see me in the mental state I was in. It was probably more like I was ashamed of myself. Growing up going to church hearing all your life that suicide was sin.

Why did I wait so long to tell my daughter? Here is some reasons for that:

  • I wasn’t sure how she would react, I just wouldn’t be able to handle that she may rejected me.
  • I needed to create a safe place first. Through my best friend, then I started to tell my story here on WordPress.

Having those safe places allowed me to feel that I would not be shamed. What I found was support, people who understood exactly how I was feeling for they were there themselves.

The other safe place was on the Mental Health Ward in this city. There was no pressure to talk about your feelings, yet you could, that nobody would think less of you. Among that safe place was the nurses, the aids, and of course my psychiatrist. I also knew when I was discharged that if I hit a low spot I could return to that place.

I would hope that anyone who is struggling with mental health issues has a safe place. Someone they can talk with, a shoulder to cry on. Maybe a place they can go and feel safe to talk with others in a group setting.

So dear reader breaking the news the other night lifted the heavy weight off my shoulder. For the response that came back to me was, “do not beat yourself up for it”!

The Progression Of Civil Liberties


 “It is impossible to struggle for civil rights, equal rights for blacks, without including whites. Because equal rights, fair play, justice, are all like the air: we all have it, or none of us has it. That is the truth of it.” Maya Angelou


*** I started writing this post yesterday. I had to set it aside to deal with a family issue.***

Most of the liberties we enjoy were not always available in many democracies. They came into being after much protests, outcries.

  • The freedom of slaves happened after the civil war
  • In 1920 women finally had the right to vote in America after the nineteenth amendment was passed in congress
  • In 1964 President Lyndon signed the civil rights act
  • In 2015 gay marriage was made final in the Supreme Court held in a 5–4 decision that the Fourteenth Amendment requires all states to grant same-sex marriages.

So dear reader most civil liberties only came to be only after much protest, petitions, court battles.

Mental Time Out!

You shouldn’t feel guilty about taking time for yourself. Every so often, everyone needs to give themselves a big ol’ bear hug and treat themselves to some TLC. Sean Covey
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I was mi.a.(missing in action) on purpose. I just needed to shut down, turn off, from all the heaviness happening around the world, especially what is happening in America.

The event that broke the camel’s back was the shooting of Jacob Blake. I couldn’t believe how it happened, shot twelve times, in front of three children. I am sorry, I just cannot fathom how anyone could be that cruel. The cop had his hand on the Jacob’s t-shirt.

Then I also just had to turn off all the politics, it was just tearing apart my mental fabric. I could never be a politician. It seems like you have to lie without blinking an eye.

I even shut down watching my favorite crime show dramas. I could not watch them for it took my focus back to the shooting of Jacob Blake, George Floyd, Breonna Taylor, just too many to name them all on this post. If you would like to know their names, their bio, etc., you can visit “Know Their Names“.

All I did these past few days was to watch nothing the caused my brain to hurt. I just watched history style programs, like exploring Egypt, one of my favorite feel good shows is “Little People” on the TLC network.

I feel that I need to take a time out moment to refresh, regenerate my mind from, images, words, news, sounds, basically anything that required my mind to analyse something.

So dear reader I do not feel guilty about taking time out. As I am writing this post I am noticing that my thoughts are flowing freely. Once again I can focus with a laser style precision. If you are feeling mentally full of toxins try taking a time out!

Connections

“We cannot live only for ourselves. A thousand fibers connect us with our fellow men; and among those fibers, as sympathetic threads, our actions run as causes, and they come back to us as effects.”
― Herman Melville


Throughout my life I have watched people, what I have noticed that those who are connected through family, friends, pen-pals, email seem to stay vibrant. I have also noticed with senior couples if the wife dies first usually the husband does not last long.

I have a neighbor who is probably in her seventies, she works at a grocery store as a clerk, she gets up every morning and goes for a walk with a group of people inside the local mall. If it wasn’t for the white hair you would not think that she is as old.

I am not as connected as I use to be, my circle has shrunk down. However, I keep connected through reading or watching about world events. I have been reading, not e-book either, an actual pen and paper. I have read two, in the middle of a third one. The topic, Donald J. Trump. These are not conspiracy writings, one was written by a family member.

I have also read a book about style of writing, “Elements of Style“, author William Strunk Jr. It was penned near the beginning of the twentieth century. It has given me much lessons on writing, it’s structure, format, much more.

My most favorite place that I have made connections with others is the WordPress community. I truly enjoy reading all the posts that I follow, plus many more. Also the enjoyment in conversing with other bloggers through the comment section at the end of each post. All of this gives me some depth about the world I live in. I no longer feel like a lost, stranded on a desert island. A place that allows me to know that there are other humans experiencing some of the same afflictions that I face in my life.

So dear reader there is much more that I could write, I feel that I have expressed all my thoughts about the word “connections!

Purpose, The True Sense

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“Definiteness of purpose is the starting point of all achievement.” ―W. Clement Stone


Every on in awhile I have at times asked the ultimate question, “what is my purpose for living”. Just the other day was one of those times.

For the whole population of planet earth the question would be as unique as is the number of those living on the big blue marble.

I have a vivid memory of telling my mother that I was going to be a preacher, I was not much more the eight years old. Then circumstance brought me to a fork in the road. My home church was needing a musician, it had been filled by my grandfather with his guitar. So, I added learning to play the piano to my purpose.

I worked hard learning the piano, studying the Bible with the same vigor. It wasn’t long before my purpose became reality. I would travel with an evangelist as the organist, then at certain days I was able to preach.

I have learned over my lifetime that purpose will fluctuate due to varying circumstances, such as marriage, children, career change, etc.,

I truly feel that some of my depression came when I lost the sense of purpose. When I stepped down as a pastor, it was shortly after that event that I tried to commit suicide. There have been other times of depression where I can pin point the event where I lost my sense of purpose.

I have asked that question, I feel at this time, this place, that I have purpose. Found in events, people that I would have never thought of. Having a sense of purpose brings about a calmness to my mind, a feeling of peace, tranquility.

So dear reader do not think that you are alone in this world when you find yourself asking the all important question, “what is my purpose in life”?

Sunshine In Bloom!

With all the bad news, sad news, fatal news, I thought a bit of cheer in bloom is much needed.

When I first moved into my home twenty-three years ago I had a real problem every spring and summer with an infestation of ants. They just wouldn’t quit!

Then I heard from a gardening expert about a natural remedy, a natural repellent to keep away ants. You guessed it, marigolds.

I tried it and sure enough it solved the ant dilemma. I have planted marigolds in front and on the sides of my home ever since.

I also know that those who love to work in their garden, vegetable or flowers, find that it is a repellent to stress.

So dear reader if I was a physician and treating you for stress I would give you a prescription of hours in the garden!

Leave My Emotions Out Of It!

Of course our feelings matter. But emotional decisions are usually not the best ones. On the other hand, your emotions can affect your decisions whether you like it or not because the effects can occur on the unconscious level.  Leonard Mlodinow


I have never approached the subject of how I made decisions from this view point, making them in an emotional state.

As I think back on my life I have basically always made decisions while in an pressured situation. I made them in haste, many of them when I was angry, then too proud to reverse the decision, that would mean I was wrong.

My suicide attempt was a decision when I was overwrought with anger. I felt like the world was caving in, the walls were closing together to squash me. I now know that was a very stupid, ludicrous move.

Then there was the opposite, no decision made because I was in deep depression. My mood was horrendous, I just didn’t care one way or the other. I would go for days living on coffee, just no appetite, when I did eat it was simply junk food with no nutritious value.

Then when the pendulum swung the other way I was in the state of mania making really crazy, almost dangerous decisions. One time, this story was told to me by my best friend because I had no recall of it. I had a plumber in to fix something, that required me to go under the trailer to shut the water off. My best friend came he had to help me out of the crawl space for I was wacked out due to Oxycontin.

I have made great progress in making decisions. I never make them when angry, not in haste, just with proper logical methods. I give credit to my Psychiatrist and the team at the Mental Health Ward, for I learned I could manage my emotional decisions. Also the cocktail of meds that I take daily.

So dear reader this writer has cleared the hurdle of making decisions in an emotional frame of mind!

Things That Make Me Say hmmmmm…

“Around here, however, we don’t look backwards for very long. We keep moving forward, opening up new doors and doing new things, because we’re curious…and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.”
― Walt Disney Company


I have been thinking whatever happen to the child-like curiosity that I use to have.

Here are some things I have been curious about;

  • Why do people who are named Richard have the nick name “Dick”…hmmmm
  • Why do people who are name Robert have the nick name “Bob”…hmmmm
  • Why do people who are named William have the nick name “Bill”…hmmmm
  • How long does it take for a pot of water to boil if you are watching…lol
  • Do you really have to list alphabetically the names of a couple. Nancy, Ralph. So on, and so on….hmmmm
  • Is it being
  • When dating does the guy still hold the door open for the female, pull out her chair for her to sit down.
  • Is it alright to go “double dutch” or does the guy still pay for everything…hmmmm

I woke up this morning with this idea. I thought it would be nice to have some fun. Life lately has been so serious. I am guilty for I take myself too seriously.

So dear reader, do you have things that make you say hmmmmm?

A Re-Blog: Despair and Giving Up — Body-Mind Health

Have you ever reached a point when nothing works to solve a problem? I have. I have been trying for over a week to achieve a very important life goal. I need not go into the specifics about this. It is enough to say that it is very important to me to do this and,…

Despair and Giving Up — Body-Mind Health

How Is Your Emotional Well-Being?

“When our emotional health is in a bad state, so is our level of self-esteem. We have to slow down and deal with what is troubling us, so that we can enjoy the simple joy of being happy and at peace with ourselves.”
― Jess C. Scott, Clear: A Guide to Treating Acne Naturally


I probably could guess and be correct, most people who are bi-polar knows about the extreme mania to the deep depression. I understand that in woman going through menopause that they have a more acute situation.

When I stop to think about how messed up I was before being treated for bi-polar. With the extreme mania it wasn’t out of the question that I would stay awake for more than twenty-four hours.

Then when I hit bottom I truly would fall apart. Arguing with my best friend, wouldn’t answer my phone, had no appetite for eating, just sit and drink coffee with a cigarette.(I no longer smoke, going on six years since I have quit) Coffee I still drink it!(probably more than I should…lol)


Emotional well-being

Emotional well-being refers to the emotional quality an individual experiences. Emotional well-being is influenced by a variety of demographic, economic, and situational factors. For example, the onset of the COVID-19 outbreak, lowered emotional well-being by 74%. Wikipedia


During these stressful times I sometimes wish that things would return to a somewhat normal. I do not go out much, when I do it is for a doctor’s appointment. I find myself getting frustrated with the mask, it fogs up my glasses. Would love to hear how to stop that.

If that definition holds true I must have a terrible state of emotional well-being. I can answer in the negative on two of the three factors stated.

So dear reader I take extra steps during the day. Turn off the news, listen to some music on iTunes, read a book. Anything to keep my emotional well-being healthy!

Something New For This Blog?


I have been mulling this over for quite some time. I wasn’t sure, not really sure now, if this idea would work for me.

The Interview

There are some great bloggers out there, I come across their blogs, that I would love to ask them a series of questions in the form of a written Interview. Then post the Interview here on this blog. I already have some in mind when it comes to this. It will go beyond what they write, share on their blog.

I enjoy re-blogging others post to give them some extra exposure. Topics ranging from depression to transgender. I read the posts, while reading I have questions I would love to ask, but I feel using the comment section is not the correct arena to do so.

I feel those who read this blog just may enjoy reading the insights of other bloggers. No worry, nothing embarrassing will be asked or posted. The first thing in the Interview would be their biography.

I am not sure the frequency of these, I feel the comfortable would be one a month. At the most twice.

If you know of someone who you would like to see interviewed please use my Contact Page.

So dear reader I am excited to start an adventure with this feature of an Interview.

Feel Inspired?

You’re always going to write and draw inspiration from things that you’re feeling, things that you’ve felt. It’s kind of impossible not to unless you’re writing a song and there’s an exact scenario that you’re trying to write a song for. Harry Styles
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The thing that hath been, it is that which shall be; and that which is done: and there is no new thing under the sun.[emphasis mine]


I read quite a few blog posts each and every day, the one thing that stands out and amazes me is, where does everyone find so much inspiration. No two posts are the same, whether in structure, wording, style, category.

So I ask myself where do you find inspiration?

  • Art
  • Music
  • Poetry
  • Television
  • News
  • Reading
  • Dreams
  • Nightmares
  • Personal Life
  • Experiences
  • Friend

As you can see the above list is quite lengthy, I am sure there are others that can be added.

Sometimes I find myself struggling in this category, like today I started a post with a certain subject only to realize I have written about it not that long ago. Therefore this post came from that moment.

So dear reader I would ask you to take a moment and tell me in the comment area where do you find your inspiration?


Negative/Positive?

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“It is not always possible to do away with negative thinking, but with persistence and practice, one can gain mastery over them so that they do not take the upper hand.”
― Stephen Richards

Warning This Post Does Not Contain A Magical Remedy!

Over the past two years I have begun to notice that I do not look at the negative side of things automatically.  Writing about my challenges seems to have retrained my thought pattern by seeing the positive in situations. I am truly not sure of when it happened, all that I know is that it did.

Dealing with the negative stuff in life is difficult for most people, some are better at handling them than others.  It sometimes makes you wonder do they have a secret that you wish they would tell you.  My best friend is so cheerful as soon as his eyes are open.  He loves to kid around making it hard to know when he is really being serious.  This at times can make me feel so frustrated.  He sees the funny side of most matters.  For me I take a long time to get motivated in the morning.  However, caffeine helps with that problem.

Then there have been others in my life that seem to naturally be the “woe is me” twenty-four/seven.  After awhile I would find myself copying their attitude.  It would take me some time shake that off.  I finally just had to cut them out of my life.

When my Psychiatrist stopped to visit me while I was in the hospital several weeks back I told her just before she had to go, “consider me a student that’s graduated”.  She immediately remarked that she liked such a positive spin.  It truly felt wonderful to let her see my transformation for she did see me when I was so negative about my life. 

Let me state for the record I do not have a twelve step plan for others on dealing with negatives in your life, I just don’t.  Let’s be truthful, if I did that more than likely it would cause more negativity that positivism.  Also, I do not have a formal education with a degree in Psychiatry.

So dear reader let me encourage you that it turning negatives into positives can happen in your life!  As the old adage, practice, practice, practice!

Hats Off To Kamala Harris!

From the Pen of_ D. M. Bourne

“Surround yourself with really good friends. Have people around you who cheer you on, and applaud you, and support you, and are honest with you, and tell you, you know, when your breath stinks.” Kamala Harris

August 11, 2020

I am one who does not write about politics, I believe to this day I may have written three posts.

For this post I thought it would be fitting to write about an Historic Event in America, the first ever Black Woman to be on a presidential ticket. It is not because she is on the Democratic ticket, but because of who Kamala Harris is.

As many readers know I grew up in Windsor, Ontario. I lived within an hours drive of some of the sites around Chatham, Ontario that were connected to the Underground Railroad.  [Learn more about it: [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Underground_Railroad]. 

For most of my life from childhood to adult I have always been exposed to Black community.  For your information, Windsor, Ontario is directly across from Detroit, Michigan.  As an adult with a car I would rather attend a Black Church.  I loved how they worshiped, their dedication. I was totally comfortable being around them.

Tonight someone finally took a step into what America can be by choosing a woman of color.  The presidential ticket looks more like what America really looks like.  I realize, recognize that there will be some who will get their feathers ruffled by this, but not this fifty-eight year old white man.

So dear reader I raise a blogging glass to salute Vice President Nominee, Kamala Harris!

 

A Reblog: A letter to self on bad mental health days! — FOREVER AWKWARD

Dear self, I know you’re having a tough time today but that’s okay. Not every day is the same. Some days are better than others, and that’s okay. I know that you feel worn out, angry, livid even. You feel like you are unable to control the way you feel and it racks you with […]

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Flex That Writing Muscle!

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Octavia E. Butler

“You don’t start out writing good stuff. You start out writing crap and thinking it’s good stuff, and then gradually you get better at it.
That’s why I say one of the most valuable traits is persistence.”
― Octavia E. Butler


I have noticed over the last couple years my writing has started to form my own style. I have learned that writing is like a muscle, it needs exercise. In drafts I have been experimenting different ideas.  Some I have used already on my second blog, “A Study In Bible Prophecy”.

Also, I have noticed that my writing is flowing quite freely, no long moments of sitting trying to put some words in a sensible thought.  No paragraphs of pure rambling.  Words that I have not thought about it for years come forward in my mind. Yes, sometimes I will use Google to make sure I am using the right word that portrays the correct sentiment.

So dear reader you will be noticing some refining of my writing as I go forward in this blog!


 

A Thought Of Gratefulness

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“Appreciation can make a day—even change a life. Your willingness to put it into words is all that is necessary.” ―Margaret Cousins

I decided today that I would change the focus.  With everything that is happening around the world, country, neighborhood, backyard, it is so easy to be distraught. Yes, I sometimes am guilty of listening to too much news.

Other times I am focused on myself, depression, boredom, lack of interest in many areas. I find that when I am in that vein of thought it can turn into a never ending cycle, one that is hard to break free from.

This morning as is many mornings my dog waits to hear me moving in the bedroom.  She lays near the hallway just waiting for me to come her way.  She then proceeds to stand up, tail wagging, she knows there is a treat for her if she waits.  There isn’t a day go by that I don’t laugh at something she does.

Also I am so grateful for my best friend. He is a big help at this time with doing things that I cannot do because of mobility issues.  We sit and visit, if there is a hockey game we will watch, also when there is curling you can be sure we are watching.

I look around me and I really cannot complain, food to eat, clothes to wear, a roof above my head, and many other things.

I know that there are many at this time who are facing tremendous pressures, lack of finances to pay the rent, buy food. Also facing a horrible decision of whether to send their children to school.

Truly my heart goes out to all those families, friends, co-workers, etc., who have lost someone they love due to this pandemic. I send sincere condolences to them.

So dear reader this writer is so grateful! I also pray for all those going through the battles at this time!

Teachable Moments

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“Experience is what you get when you didn’t get what you wanted. And experience is often the most valuable thing you have to offer.”
― Randy PauschThe Last Lecture

There is something I have learned the hard way, I use my experiences as teachable moments.

I am not sure if I have ever shared this about my daughter as a baby who suffered with colic.  We did everything, I would walk the floor all night long with her.  Finally, someone suggested that it may be the formula doesn’t agree with her.  They recommended switching her to “Carnation” formula.  We did and her colic disappeared.

In Ontario they send a nurse to all families who have newborn children.  Well one morning the nurse dropped in, I was asleep in the bedroom.  I began to hear the nurse’s voice in a scolding manner towards my wife.  I got out of bed to see what was happening.  My wife mentioned to the nurse about switching the baby’s formula. She was threatening all kinds of things towards us.  Back then I could get very vocal and forceful. I asked the nurse how many children she had raised, the reply came back, “none”. I proceeded to tell her that my grandmother raised seven children with it, my mother raised five children. I told her it was good enough for them, it is good enough for my daughter. Case closed.  The nurse left and never stopped in again.

What I write on this blog is how I have reacted with many of my experiences in life.  I never recommend anything that someone should follow.  Experiences are not one size fits all.

So dear reader the motive behind my posts are usually based on some experience in my life, not a text book! Experiences can be used as teachable moments!

A Post Of Caution

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Most plagiarists, like the drone, have neither taste to select, industry to acquire, nor skill to improve, but impudently pilfer the honey ready prepared, from the hive.     Walter Colton

Read more: https://www.wiseoldsayings.com/plagiarism-quotes/#ixzz6UHj67rn2

Yesterday I was hit with something that set me back on my heels. I received a message that I had to “pay” for using the writer’s material.  Well there was back and forth, I kindly asked him to notice that I mentioned at the top that it is a re-blog.  I also explained my intent was to bolster people towards his blog which I thought was full of great information.

Thinking back to my grade nine English class how it was drilled into us not to “plagiarize” other’s works.  I have never been accused of that in my entire life. I always gave credit to where credit is due.

What is plagiarism?

Plagiarism is when a person uses other person’s words, work or ideas without giving the author of those works credit. Plagiarism is seen more like an ethical offence instead of a legal one, although it can form the basis of a copyright infringement claim.

Source: https://education.findlaw.ca/article/what-is-plagiarism-and-what-are-the-consequences-of-it#:~:text=Plagiarism%20is%20when%20a%20person,of%20a%20copyright%20infringement%20claim.

So dear reader I write this as a post of caution when you re-blog a post.

A Reblog: DANGERS OF SOCIAL MEDIA ON MENTAL HEALTH — Escapades by Chebet

As much as social media is great, it also has a negative effect on mental health. Statistics show that the rate of suicide,self-harm, depression and anxiety have risen in the last few years due to social media, especially within the teens and young adults.

via DANGERS OF SOCIAL MEDIA ON MENTAL HEALTH — Escapades by Chebet

Dealing With Mental Blocks

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“Don’t let mental blocks control you. Set yourself free. Confront your fear and turn the mental blocks into building blocks.”
― Dr Roopleen,Words to inspire the winner in YOU

I have sat in front of my laptop over the last several days with the task of writing in mind.  I would start a post only to find myself half way through hitting the delete button.  I just couldn’t keep my train of thought focused, found myself wandering in my thoughts.

I am realizing that I am not alone in this way, mental blocks, writer’s block are very common even for the best authors.



Mental Block –  

… [I]t can also be an inability to continue or complete a train of thought, as in the case of writer’s block. In the case of writer’s block, many find it helpful to take a break and revisit their topic. [source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mental_block]



I found on Google some suggestions in tackling these mental blocks.  Here is what I found:

7 Unexpected Ways to Get Around Mental Blocks
  1. Freewrite. When you are feeling stuck, open up a new Word doc, and start writing about whatever is on your mind. …
  2. Tackle smaller tasks first. …
  3. Change your environment. …
  4. Learn something new. …
  5. Revisit past experiences. …
  6. See what your friends are up to. …
  7. Analyze other people’s ideas.

[source: https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/250509]

So dear reader I thought I would share with you something I am sure many have experienced. I am going to try some of the ways mention to overcome mental blocks.