Progress and Mental Health

Don’t look too far into the future, just look at tomorrow. One day at a time. Can you win tomorrow? Can you make progress? The answer is yes, you have a choice and tomorrow you’re going to win. Joe Wicks

verb/prəˈɡres/

move forward or onward in space or time .”as the century progressed, the quality of telescopes improved” Oxford Languages

I remember back to when I was teaching myself the piano. I would work hard, sometimes for hours, and what kept me going back to sit at my piano was, progress. When I would learn something new, I would keep going over it again and again, each time building my confidence.

It has been the same with my recovery. Each week I have increased the number of reps for the exercises. I have been working on walking up and down my ramp. Today was a progress day, I had walked down my ramp to where it meets the my sidewalk. I felt elated because it was great to be able to be outside and further more doing so without any crippling pain.

It is my opinion that it is progress that keeps us in a healthy frame of mind. Without progress we probably wouldn’t have all the technologies that makes our lives better. I have read that a cell phone has more computing power than that which was in the Apollo Spacecraft that took three men to the moon. There are many things that have been developed by men who kept working on scientific projects. One that comes to mind is the founder of insulin, Sir Frederick G Banting . My own daughter lives a normal life thanks to the progression in medicine.

So dear reader, does progress spur you forward? I would love to have you share with the readers and myself!

Maintaining Mental Health

“Mental health…is not a destination, but a process. It’s about how you drive, not where you’re going.” – Noam Shpancer, PhD

To be honest I am not a super human. Lately during this recovery period I have found that I talk to myself. What do I mean? Well, sometimes the new hip is tender, maybe slow, and I tell myself, “you did this yesterday and you can do it today”. I realize that mental health needs maintaining. I cannot take my mental health for granted.

I know what should be done, things like affirmations, meditation, and getting plenty of rest. Knowing them does not help me if I do not do them. I have to remind myself every day lately that I need to push forward if I am to gain back full ability of walking.

I have heard somewhere that the mind is like a sponge, it soaks up everything, good or bad. In computer language, “garbage in, garbage out”.

Recently I wrote the post, Attitude with Gratitude and that is most of the battle. No matter I how I feel, think, or even perceive my situation, I need to find those littlest things to be thankful for. My one things is this; I have the ability to move my hip without the pain that I experienced pre-op.

So dear reader, are there things you do to maintain your mental health? I would love for you to share them with me and the other bloggers!

Benefits of Blogging

“I guess my point is, if you’re one of these people considering giving up on blogging in exchange for paying more attention to Facebook, Twitter, YouTube and MySpace, or whatever they throw at us mere mortals, bear in mind you are giving up on something rather unique and wonderful.” (Hugh Macleod)

When I was in the hospital I kept wishing I could access the internet and go to my blog. I wanted to get caught up on all the great blogs that I follow. Think me strange, I felt like something was missing.

Blogging does so much for me, it is cathartic, for it has allowed me a medium to speak about those things that I care about. Things such as; mental health, healing of the mind, and also healing of the soul. I have read many times from other bloggers that it gives oneself a place where they belong, a community. This for me cannot be found in other social media platforms.

In high school I loved English, well maybe not Shakespeare, but in general. I love to read and for quite some time I did not consider myself a reader. Blogging has provided me a venue to stretch my capabilities in writing and has brought back parts of my education that I had become sloppy.

It is also a window to peak through to learn what is happening with others near and far. It also gives others a chance to read about how I am doing and also feeling. I have found that I do not stand alone in my struggles, there are many others who are, or have, faced the same type of struggles. It gives me courage to grit my teeth and power through to the other side of those struggles.

Communication, I love to engage in healthy conversations. The push and pull of talking to others and have educated debates about all the issues of life that we go through or face. It doesn’t mean that we will agree on everything because doing so would be cookie cutter humans.

Blogging brings diversity and I learned to love diversity growing up in a city of multicultural. It was the ability to learn how others live, their customs and also their beliefs. When I live in Toronto I loved going and eating foods from other cultures. My one favorite was a “Meat Patty” which I believe was from a Jamaica culture.

So dear readers, these are some, not all, of the benefits I find in blogging!

What’s Been On My Mind Lately…

“The things you think about determine the quality of your mind.” ― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

Besides working on my rehabilitation with my hip replacement, I have been thinking about some other things.

Here are some of those thoughts:

Vocabulary:

It could be my age, or maybe I am just not clueing in on tall the changes that are happening in today’s social culture. I am just having a difficult time with all the new words that have emerged. Words like, “cancel culture”, I still am clueless of what it exactly means. Does it mean that we cancel something like we would with a streaming site? When we cancel our subscription of the daily newspaper being brought to our door?

Then lately there is the term “woke”. I have no light going off in my head to let me know what they are talking about when they use this term. Woke to me is what defines us being conscious with our eyes wide open. Wikipedia defines the word as such:

Woke (/ˈwoʊk/WOHK) is a term that refers to awareness of issues that concern social justice and racial justice.[4] It is sometimes used in the African-American Vernacular English expression stay woke.

In the light of that definition it is somewhat understandable. I guess I would be considered “woke”, for I feel I am aware about social and racial justice. Those would require several new posts to deal with those issues.

Blogger Shock

When I left high school I had obtained five English credits, far more than what was required to graduate.

I heard about a certain person having a blog, so I decided to give it a look. I was shocked, it was one long rambling paragraph. There were no breaks when the thought changed. There were many grammatical errors and also wording. I thought to myself if this was to be turned in to be marked as a homework assignment it would received a failing grade. I can normally look past all those things, but this blog post was beyond the pale. I didn’t even bother to read the whole post and I cannot tell you what the writer was trying to convey.

Rebranding

After this shock I began to think about my own blog. Thoughts about how I could change things up, give it some cosmetic surgery, leading to maybe changing the structure of the blog. Thoughts about dedicating each day to a specific topic, but I am not sure I am willing to be that disciplined. Which topics would I use and on what day?

So dear reader those were some of my thoughts which was rambling around in my almost sixty year old brain!

Attitude of Gratitude

One very important aspect of motivation is the willingness to stop and to look at things that no one else has bothered to look at. This simple process of focusing on things that are normally taken for granted is a powerful source of creativity .Edward de Bono

I have for the past several days taken and worked at my exercises. I am progressing slowly, but some of those things were things that I never thought about when doing them. One of those things is putting on long legged pants. Since I cannot bend I have to use a tool called a “reacher”. I have conquered that task and I was elated when I did it correctly on the first try.

Yesterday, I made a small step towards being able to go outside. I was able to walk down my ramp to the first landing, then making it back to my living room. I realize that this seems trivial until you have to teach yourself how to do something using a new technique. Each day has caused me to know how I took things for granted when I had two good operating hips.

For instance, I have been shown what a true friend is. I met my best friend in the latter part of the nineties. It was a basic friendship, basically cordial and someone to visit. My friendship with my best friend has grown into more like a family. His mother used to tell people, “he’s my son of another mother” when speaking about me. He is more than just a friend now for I consider him to be the big brother I never had.

During this whole journey with my hip he has went far and beyond. He has been cooking meals for me and while I was in the hospital he watched my house. He walked through the pre-op along with me which was about six hours. I tell him many times a day how much I appreciate all that he has done.

I have realized that even the little things deserve our gratitude. Even while in the hospital I always told the nurses how much I admire and am thankful for all the work they do for their patients.

So dear reader, I wonder what little things you are thankful for. Is there something that you have come to the conclusion that you have taken it for granted?

Progress…Slow & Steady

“Sometimes life knocks you on your ass… get up, get up, get up!!! Happiness is not the absence of problems, it’s the ability to deal with them.” ― Steve Maraboli,  Life, the Truth, and Being Free

Yesterday, Friday I went for a session of therapy. It was to check how I was doing since surgery. The good news was, that I had gained a ten point in range of motion, since pre-op measurements, for most areas of the new hip. It gave me the feeling that, like little Johnny, I had received an “A” on a test Then the therapist gave some new exercises for me to do to help move that range of motion even further. The whole session lasted about an hour.

All my life has been one challenge after the other, challenges that if I wouldn’t have had the attitude to move forward, I would have never attained some of the gains in my life. I am someone who needs a challenge, something to cheer me on, to keep my eyes looking forward and never backwards. The therapist also added a new challenge, it is to start conquering walking up and down my wheelchair ramp. I am looking forward to conquering that, it means my goal of walking around the neighborhood is one step closer.

My next appointment is the middle of June where I will see the surgeon one day, then the next day more therapy.

I hope that maybe my posts about my battle to walk again might inspire others to keep moving forward, face the challenges that life throws your way.

So dear reader, once again I wish thank everyone for their support and their cheers from the sidelines!

Quitting, Not An Option

It does not matter how slowly you go so long as you do not stop.- Confucius

Today the home care nurse was here. It was a two goal stop. First, intake for home care, then to check on the dressing on the incision. Everything was good and next Monday the staples come out. Hallelujah!

Growing up I heard a saying more than once, “no pain, no gain”. I have decided that quitting is not an option for I am the one that loses if I do.

There have been several people on the maternal side that have experienced hip replacement. My grandmother, two aunts, and one uncle. It is the uncle that has motivated me to work as hard as hell. He had fallen and broke hip hip, but for some reason he gave up and spent the rest of his life in a wheelchair. I do not want to spend the rest of my natural life in a four wheeled chair.

I have battled lots in my crazy life, from a fall out of tree breaking my arm in two places, to being thrown off the back of a motorbike landing on my behind ripping my back apart. I am also a suicide survivor. I didn’t quit then and I am not quitting now.

For me I am at the end of this tunnel and daylight is only a weekend away. Tomorrow I have to go for therapy and I feel the therapist will be amazed at my progress.

So dear reader when I am at the end of my rope, I tied a knot and held on tightly!

Now Working For My Recovery

Well in the hospital they started working with me to get me back on my feet. The work is hard, but it is necessary if I want to use this new hip for what it is intended.

I spent most of my lone time to go back to what I love, reading! Since their so called tv. system is a joke I needed to find a way to fill my time. One of the therapists went down to the main floor and brought up two books written by two of my favorite authors, Tom Clancy and James Patterson. I am currently reading the writing of the latter. It is a true story that takes place around the birth of the twentieth century. It is dealing with the lynching and the K.K.K. in the deep south of America. The Title, Alex Cross.

I am grateful that I could have a hip replacement. I think about those who are not fortunate to have a health care system like that found in Canada. If I were to be in another country I may not have been able to afford this surgery. My heart goes out to those who suffer with health issues and do not have the resources to seek help.

I am told my recovery will take about three months before I can walk without a four-legged walker. I cannot use my other walker because it has wheels.

What kept me going forward was my thoughts about an uncle that had hip replacement and for some reasons he spent the rest of his life in a wheelchair.

I feel that anything you work hard for is worth having, which for me is being able once again to walk my dog, Natalie and visiting my neighbors.

So dear reader I am on my way to the end of the tunnel!

May 10-Home

I arrived today around 1 p.m. MT.

The surgery went well and I have a new hip. I do not know how long the surgery took, but most believed it was about two hours.

I woke up in the recovery with no side effects. I was taken to my room around 3p.m. MT, the rest of that day is a blur.

Iam writing sitting on the side of my bed using an android box. Sittin at the laptop may be a challenge due to the fact I cannot go past 90 degrees. I am learning new skills for my walking, standing up from a seated position. Learning to put my socks on using sock aid to keep my seated position correct. It goes the same for putting on shoes and my pants.

I had no wifi connection, but also was not allowed to take my laptop. It does feels great to be home, having access to the web and also to catch up on some t.v.shows.

It will take some time to catch up reading all of the great posts.

So deader, for all those who was sending good will my way. I have much else to write about. Now I need to continue the hard work of getting back on my feet soundly!