Hats Off To Kamala Harris!

From the Pen of_ D. M. Bourne

“Surround yourself with really good friends. Have people around you who cheer you on, and applaud you, and support you, and are honest with you, and tell you, you know, when your breath stinks.” Kamala Harris

August 11, 2020

I am one who does not write about politics, I believe to this day I may have written three posts.

For this post I thought it would be fitting to write about an Historic Event in America, the first ever Black Woman to be on a presidential ticket. It is not because she is on the Democratic ticket, but because of who Kamala Harris is.

As many readers know I grew up in Windsor, Ontario. I lived within an hours drive of some of the sites around Chatham, Ontario that were connected to the Underground Railroad.  [Learn more about it: [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Underground_Railroad]. 

For most of my life from childhood to adult I have always been exposed to Black community.  For your information, Windsor, Ontario is directly across from Detroit, Michigan.  As an adult with a car I would rather attend a Black Church.  I loved how they worshiped, their dedication. I was totally comfortable being around them.

Tonight someone finally took a step into what America can be by choosing a woman of color.  The presidential ticket looks more like what America really looks like.  I realize, recognize that there will be some who will get their feathers ruffled by this, but not this fifty-eight year old white man.

So dear reader I raise a blogging glass to salute Vice President Nominee, Kamala Harris!

 

A Reblog: A letter to self on bad mental health days! — FOREVER AWKWARD

Dear self, I know you’re having a tough time today but that’s okay. Not every day is the same. Some days are better than others, and that’s okay. I know that you feel worn out, angry, livid even. You feel like you are unable to control the way you feel and it racks you with […]

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Flex That Writing Muscle!

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Octavia E. Butler

“You don’t start out writing good stuff. You start out writing crap and thinking it’s good stuff, and then gradually you get better at it.
That’s why I say one of the most valuable traits is persistence.”
― Octavia E. Butler


I have noticed over the last couple years my writing has started to form my own style. I have learned that writing is like a muscle, it needs exercise. In drafts I have been experimenting different ideas.  Some I have used already on my second blog, “A Study In Bible Prophecy”.

Also, I have noticed that my writing is flowing quite freely, no long moments of sitting trying to put some words in a sensible thought.  No paragraphs of pure rambling.  Words that I have not thought about it for years come forward in my mind. Yes, sometimes I will use Google to make sure I am using the right word that portrays the correct sentiment.

So dear reader you will be noticing some refining of my writing as I go forward in this blog!


 

A Thought Of Gratefulness

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“Appreciation can make a day—even change a life. Your willingness to put it into words is all that is necessary.” ―Margaret Cousins

I decided today that I would change the focus.  With everything that is happening around the world, country, neighborhood, backyard, it is so easy to be distraught. Yes, I sometimes am guilty of listening to too much news.

Other times I am focused on myself, depression, boredom, lack of interest in many areas. I find that when I am in that vein of thought it can turn into a never ending cycle, one that is hard to break free from.

This morning as is many mornings my dog waits to hear me moving in the bedroom.  She lays near the hallway just waiting for me to come her way.  She then proceeds to stand up, tail wagging, she knows there is a treat for her if she waits.  There isn’t a day go by that I don’t laugh at something she does.

Also I am so grateful for my best friend. He is a big help at this time with doing things that I cannot do because of mobility issues.  We sit and visit, if there is a hockey game we will watch, also when there is curling you can be sure we are watching.

I look around me and I really cannot complain, food to eat, clothes to wear, a roof above my head, and many other things.

I know that there are many at this time who are facing tremendous pressures, lack of finances to pay the rent, buy food. Also facing a horrible decision of whether to send their children to school.

Truly my heart goes out to all those families, friends, co-workers, etc., who have lost someone they love due to this pandemic. I send sincere condolences to them.

So dear reader this writer is so grateful! I also pray for all those going through the battles at this time!

Teachable Moments

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“Experience is what you get when you didn’t get what you wanted. And experience is often the most valuable thing you have to offer.”
― Randy PauschThe Last Lecture

There is something I have learned the hard way, I use my experiences as teachable moments.

I am not sure if I have ever shared this about my daughter as a baby who suffered with colic.  We did everything, I would walk the floor all night long with her.  Finally, someone suggested that it may be the formula doesn’t agree with her.  They recommended switching her to “Carnation” formula.  We did and her colic disappeared.

In Ontario they send a nurse to all families who have newborn children.  Well one morning the nurse dropped in, I was asleep in the bedroom.  I began to hear the nurse’s voice in a scolding manner towards my wife.  I got out of bed to see what was happening.  My wife mentioned to the nurse about switching the baby’s formula. She was threatening all kinds of things towards us.  Back then I could get very vocal and forceful. I asked the nurse how many children she had raised, the reply came back, “none”. I proceeded to tell her that my grandmother raised seven children with it, my mother raised five children. I told her it was good enough for them, it is good enough for my daughter. Case closed.  The nurse left and never stopped in again.

What I write on this blog is how I have reacted with many of my experiences in life.  I never recommend anything that someone should follow.  Experiences are not one size fits all.

So dear reader the motive behind my posts are usually based on some experience in my life, not a text book! Experiences can be used as teachable moments!

A Post Of Caution

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Most plagiarists, like the drone, have neither taste to select, industry to acquire, nor skill to improve, but impudently pilfer the honey ready prepared, from the hive.     Walter Colton

Read more: https://www.wiseoldsayings.com/plagiarism-quotes/#ixzz6UHj67rn2

Yesterday I was hit with something that set me back on my heels. I received a message that I had to “pay” for using the writer’s material.  Well there was back and forth, I kindly asked him to notice that I mentioned at the top that it is a re-blog.  I also explained my intent was to bolster people towards his blog which I thought was full of great information.

Thinking back to my grade nine English class how it was drilled into us not to “plagiarize” other’s works.  I have never been accused of that in my entire life. I always gave credit to where credit is due.

What is plagiarism?

Plagiarism is when a person uses other person’s words, work or ideas without giving the author of those works credit. Plagiarism is seen more like an ethical offence instead of a legal one, although it can form the basis of a copyright infringement claim.

Source: https://education.findlaw.ca/article/what-is-plagiarism-and-what-are-the-consequences-of-it#:~:text=Plagiarism%20is%20when%20a%20person,of%20a%20copyright%20infringement%20claim.

So dear reader I write this as a post of caution when you re-blog a post.

A Reblog: DANGERS OF SOCIAL MEDIA ON MENTAL HEALTH — Escapades by Chebet

As much as social media is great, it also has a negative effect on mental health. Statistics show that the rate of suicide,self-harm, depression and anxiety have risen in the last few years due to social media, especially within the teens and young adults.

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Dealing With Mental Blocks

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“Don’t let mental blocks control you. Set yourself free. Confront your fear and turn the mental blocks into building blocks.”
― Dr Roopleen,Words to inspire the winner in YOU

I have sat in front of my laptop over the last several days with the task of writing in mind.  I would start a post only to find myself half way through hitting the delete button.  I just couldn’t keep my train of thought focused, found myself wandering in my thoughts.

I am realizing that I am not alone in this way, mental blocks, writer’s block are very common even for the best authors.



Mental Block –  

… [I]t can also be an inability to continue or complete a train of thought, as in the case of writer’s block. In the case of writer’s block, many find it helpful to take a break and revisit their topic. [source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mental_block]



I found on Google some suggestions in tackling these mental blocks.  Here is what I found:

7 Unexpected Ways to Get Around Mental Blocks
  1. Freewrite. When you are feeling stuck, open up a new Word doc, and start writing about whatever is on your mind. …
  2. Tackle smaller tasks first. …
  3. Change your environment. …
  4. Learn something new. …
  5. Revisit past experiences. …
  6. See what your friends are up to. …
  7. Analyze other people’s ideas.
[source: https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/250509]

So dear reader I thought I would share with you something I am sure many have experienced. I am going to try some of the ways mention to overcome mental blocks.

A Reblog: Reversible Figures and Mood — Body-Mind Health

You have probably seen what are called ‘reversible figures’. For example, a picture of a vase that when looked at slightly differently becomes two faces. This involves a fast rearrangement of how your brain makes sense of an object. First you see the vase as the foreground and then as the background. The faces become […]

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Walking In Your Shoes

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Barack Obama

“My third piece of advice is to cultivate a sense of empathy – to put yourself in other people’s shoes – to see the world from their eyes. Empathy is a quality of character that can change the world.”

For this post I want to flip the idiom “walk a mile in my shoes” to “walk a mile in your shoes”.

I would like to ask you a question, what would I learn if I were to lace up in your shoes?

Would I:

  • learn that you dread getting out of bed in the morning
  • that even with taking meds your depression is still hanging there
  • maybe how you think that nobody truly understands what you are struggling with
  • or that sometimes you fantasize about killing yourself 
  • those troublesome times when you just cannot concentrate on one thing for any length of time
  • how you have panic attacks just thinking about leaving your home
  • that between paying for your meds and therapy you have a hard time managing your other obligations

There are probably a myriad of other things I could learn if I were to walk for some time in your shoes. I just mentioned the ones that came to my mind at the time of writing this post.

So dear reader, if I could walk a mile in those shoes of yours would I have a better sense of what your life is truly like?