Flex That Writing Muscle!

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Octavia E. Butler

“You don’t start out writing good stuff. You start out writing crap and thinking it’s good stuff, and then gradually you get better at it.
That’s why I say one of the most valuable traits is persistence.”
― Octavia E. Butler


I have noticed over the last couple years my writing has started to form my own style. I have learned that writing is like a muscle, it needs exercise. In drafts I have been experimenting different ideas.  Some I have used already on my second blog, “A Study In Bible Prophecy”.

Also, I have noticed that my writing is flowing quite freely, no long moments of sitting trying to put some words in a sensible thought.  No paragraphs of pure rambling.  Words that I have not thought about it for years come forward in my mind. Yes, sometimes I will use Google to make sure I am using the right word that portrays the correct sentiment.

So dear reader you will be noticing some refining of my writing as I go forward in this blog!


 

A Thought Of Gratefulness

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“Appreciation can make a day—even change a life. Your willingness to put it into words is all that is necessary.” ―Margaret Cousins

I decided today that I would change the focus.  With everything that is happening around the world, country, neighborhood, backyard, it is so easy to be distraught. Yes, I sometimes am guilty of listening to too much news.

Other times I am focused on myself, depression, boredom, lack of interest in many areas. I find that when I am in that vein of thought it can turn into a never ending cycle, one that is hard to break free from.

This morning as is many mornings my dog waits to hear me moving in the bedroom.  She lays near the hallway just waiting for me to come her way.  She then proceeds to stand up, tail wagging, she knows there is a treat for her if she waits.  There isn’t a day go by that I don’t laugh at something she does.

Also I am so grateful for my best friend. He is a big help at this time with doing things that I cannot do because of mobility issues.  We sit and visit, if there is a hockey game we will watch, also when there is curling you can be sure we are watching.

I look around me and I really cannot complain, food to eat, clothes to wear, a roof above my head, and many other things.

I know that there are many at this time who are facing tremendous pressures, lack of finances to pay the rent, buy food. Also facing a horrible decision of whether to send their children to school.

Truly my heart goes out to all those families, friends, co-workers, etc., who have lost someone they love due to this pandemic. I send sincere condolences to them.

So dear reader this writer is so grateful! I also pray for all those going through the battles at this time!

A Post Of Caution

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Most plagiarists, like the drone, have neither taste to select, industry to acquire, nor skill to improve, but impudently pilfer the honey ready prepared, from the hive.     Walter Colton

Read more: https://www.wiseoldsayings.com/plagiarism-quotes/#ixzz6UHj67rn2

Yesterday I was hit with something that set me back on my heels. I received a message that I had to “pay” for using the writer’s material.  Well there was back and forth, I kindly asked him to notice that I mentioned at the top that it is a re-blog.  I also explained my intent was to bolster people towards his blog which I thought was full of great information.

Thinking back to my grade nine English class how it was drilled into us not to “plagiarize” other’s works.  I have never been accused of that in my entire life. I always gave credit to where credit is due.

What is plagiarism?

Plagiarism is when a person uses other person’s words, work or ideas without giving the author of those works credit. Plagiarism is seen more like an ethical offence instead of a legal one, although it can form the basis of a copyright infringement claim.

Source: https://education.findlaw.ca/article/what-is-plagiarism-and-what-are-the-consequences-of-it#:~:text=Plagiarism%20is%20when%20a%20person,of%20a%20copyright%20infringement%20claim.

So dear reader I write this as a post of caution when you re-blog a post.

A Reblog: DANGERS OF SOCIAL MEDIA ON MENTAL HEALTH — Escapades by Chebet

As much as social media is great, it also has a negative effect on mental health. Statistics show that the rate of suicide,self-harm, depression and anxiety have risen in the last few years due to social media, especially within the teens and young adults.

via DANGERS OF SOCIAL MEDIA ON MENTAL HEALTH — Escapades by Chebet

Dealing With Mental Blocks

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“Don’t let mental blocks control you. Set yourself free. Confront your fear and turn the mental blocks into building blocks.”
― Dr Roopleen,Words to inspire the winner in YOU

I have sat in front of my laptop over the last several days with the task of writing in mind.  I would start a post only to find myself half way through hitting the delete button.  I just couldn’t keep my train of thought focused, found myself wandering in my thoughts.

I am realizing that I am not alone in this way, mental blocks, writer’s block are very common even for the best authors.



Mental Block –  

… [I]t can also be an inability to continue or complete a train of thought, as in the case of writer’s block. In the case of writer’s block, many find it helpful to take a break and revisit their topic. [source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mental_block]



I found on Google some suggestions in tackling these mental blocks.  Here is what I found:

7 Unexpected Ways to Get Around Mental Blocks
  1. Freewrite. When you are feeling stuck, open up a new Word doc, and start writing about whatever is on your mind. …
  2. Tackle smaller tasks first. …
  3. Change your environment. …
  4. Learn something new. …
  5. Revisit past experiences. …
  6. See what your friends are up to. …
  7. Analyze other people’s ideas.
[source: https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/250509]

So dear reader I thought I would share with you something I am sure many have experienced. I am going to try some of the ways mention to overcome mental blocks.

A Reblog: Reversible Figures and Mood — Body-Mind Health

You have probably seen what are called ‘reversible figures’. For example, a picture of a vase that when looked at slightly differently becomes two faces. This involves a fast rearrangement of how your brain makes sense of an object. First you see the vase as the foreground and then as the background. The faces become […]

via Reversible Figures and Mood — Body-Mind Health

A Reblog: Men and Depression — Wakiza feeds

Depression is an intense feeling of sadness that lasts for a long time, sometimes weeks, months or years. If you are depressed, it can start to interfere with your day-to-day life, well being and physical health. Men may not recognize they have depression. If they do acknowledge it to themselves, they are often reluctant to talk […]

via Men and Depression — Wakiza feeds

A Reblog: The Cost of Being Gendered as Male — Translating Transgender

I hope you will take some time and read this great life story!

Transitioning in the midst of a decade long photography project, presents an opportunity to see how differently people relate to me as a man vs. a woman. Enjoying a day off, I decided to swing by the Weirdest little Church in Texas, check out their volunteer program and hopefully capture a few shots on camera. […]

via The Cost of Being Gendered as Male — Translating Transgender

Please Instill This…

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You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ Eleanor Roosevelt
Read more at https://www.brainyquote.com/authors/eleanor-roosevelt-quotes

If you would have met me and followed me around you would have saw a guy with a low opinion of himself. I didn’t excel in sports, science, history, really not much at all.  Do not misunderstand me I always had good marks. Never much in any trouble, except in grade ten they gave me a lunch period that started at ten o’clock in the morning.  My solution was simple I would skip the class where lunch should have been.

For the life of me I can only recall once where one of my parents showed up in anything that concerned school.  My mother attended my grade eight graduation, that’s it. My father was absent in any event I was in. Come to think of it he was absent in anything that I was interested in.  His idea was that I should go to a trade school to become an oil jockey in some dead end job. He wasn’t not pleased when I chose an all academic school where I took all business related courses.

 Self-esteem was hard to come by around my family, both in my immediate family and my extended family.  I felt great around my maternal grandfather when we would practice a song to sing at church.  My mother was there for me, but her attention was also to my four siblings.

So often I hear parents belittling, shaming their children that I get so infuriated by.  Those remarks will only cause deep wounds, scars that will last their entire life.  Get behind your children be their best cheerleader they have. It will bring a harvest of great accomplishments.

Dear reader it is also my feeling about my blog, the comments I make on other’s posts, it is better to be a builder. So let’s instill this, self-esteem!

Do The Work

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“Mental health needs a great deal of attention. It’s the final taboo and it needs to be faced and dealt with.” – Adam Ant

Every day has a job for me to do, it requires my attention every moment, it is there just behind the shadows.  The maintenance of my mental health.  It sure would be easy to neglect it, start sliding backwards, and once again finding myself staring at the abyss,

When I was much younger I was driven by perfection.  I had a habit after I would have my coffee in the morning I would vacuum the carpet in the living room.  I tried to keep everything in it’s place.  Took extra time making sure that my hair was perfect, it was an exercise of using the blow dryer, brush, then extra strong hair spray. 

I find that I am not driven by that part of me that wants perfection.  I like my home clean,  but with a dog that has lots of hair it is an endless battle.  Also, I do not fret if things seem somewhat untidy. Those things are the least of my worries.

My morning routine though is basically the same. I put the coffee maker on, fill the glass on my side table with water, then proceed to take my morning medications in a certain order.  My daily routine is flexible, but one thing that is etched in stone is my medications.

Before turning out the lights I try to find programs with some harmless humor, shows like “Hogan’s Heroes”, “The Carol Burnett Show”, and if I can stay awake an episode of “Perry Mason”.  The reason for the humor I feel it acts like a detox of all the depressing things during the day.

I had read about a man, Cousins, who laughed himself back to healthy.  He locked himself in a hotel room, had all Marx Brothers Films, and other comedies, watched them and laughed himself whole.

Mental Health maintenance truly is a full time job, there is no resting on one’s laurels. You have to be vigilant, always on your guard, avoid some of those who bring nothing but negative drama.  I choose who I allow to have my attention.  I have weeded out those in my family, friends, acquaintances, all who were detrimental to my mental health.

So dear reader, for your own good, your mental health, do the work!