The Night I Felt Unsafe!


I was in the hospital for a good part of the week.

One night I rang the call button, around 10 p.m., to ask if my night meds be given soon.

The nurse came in, invaded my personal space without permission by placing her hand on the top of my story. She then began a tirade about she had a number of patients, and on and on she went. When she left she left me shaking fearing for my safety.

I took the advice on a blog I follow about bullying and put it into action.

1. I out cried to another nurse immediately. 

2. Then the charge nurse came in.

3. I then again shared with the charge nurse what had happened. 

4. She then revealed that there had been issues with this so called nurse before.

5. The charge nurse then told me her plan concerning my issue. 

6. The charge nurse said that the nurse with the issue would not be coming back to my room.

7. The charge nurse would then confront the nurse about my concerns.

In the past I probably would not have done anything. I really did not have the tools, the knowledge on how to claim my space again. 

Note, not once did I lower myself to that nurse’s level. I did not demean her to her superior, I did not say I would retaliate.

When all was said and done I felt so much better, my esteem was left intact, maybe, even a bit stronger.

Cherie, of Chateau Cherie your blog and your teaching about bullies, the way to treat them. Those posts really do help, at least for me because I put what I learned to work for me.

A Re-blog: Quaden Bayels, The Child Victim of the bulls — Blog Site of Gabriele R.

***I saw the story of this child on the Global National last night.  It will break your heart, they showed a video where the child wishes he was dead.

Hugh Jackman wanted to send Quaden Bayles, the nine-year-old victim of bullies who in a dramatic video declares he wants to die, a message in which he offers his support and friendship. Wolverine’s interpreter has joined other sports and entertainment stars, including Jeffrey Dean Morgan, to condemn bullying that has profound consequences for the victims. […]

via Quaden Bayels, The Child Victim of the bulls — Blog Site of Gabriele R.

The 24 Hour Bully

The people who are bullying you, they’re insecure about who they are, and that’s why they’re bullying you. It never has to do with the person they’re bullying. They desperately want to be loved and be accepted, and they go out of their way to make people feel unaccepted so that they’re not alone. Madelaine Petsch

If you haven’t you probably know someone who has had to contend with a schoolyard bully.  You know, the one who picks on the weaker to make himself feel better, does it to make himself feel good.

Or maybe it is a bully on the workplace, one who likes to throw his weight around. It may be his position in the company, his seniority.  Likes to take pot shots at those he feels superior over.

For those two there is some reprieve, at the end of the school day, and the end of the day at work.

The Bully Of A Different Kind

endless clock.gifThere is a different kind of bully, one that there is no reprieve, no way to escape from it’s taunts, ridicules, and harsh words.  That bully is what I will call “the 24 Hour Bully”. You must understand that this bully is within each of us if we so choose to allow it dwell there.

The 24 hour bully is there when we awaken every morning, follows us all through the day, and then there in our bedroom when it is time to go to sleep.  

Yes, I know there is medication that can quiet the loud voice in our mind, numb it’s effects of the hurt it inflicts upon us.  These medications for me leaves me with hangovers the next day leaving me feeling detached from what is happening around me. I hate this feeling, I do not feel alive inside me.

So, try as hard as I can this 24 hour bully just won’t shut up!



***This post was inspired by “Mama Coffee Chat” When she commented on my post of “Comfortable“***

If you haven’t read a post at Mama Coffee Chat I would encourage you to take some time and pay the blog a visit.

Here is her comment:

Something many of us struggle with yet it’s not a regular conversation in households. It’s probably because no one knows how to talk about it or how to teach it. Children don’t have any thoughts of this until it’s taught to them (whether at home or at school) and I wish I could protect my kids from ever having the same thoughts and feelings that I have and had growing up.
Glad you’re finally beginning to be able to be comfortable in your own skin 🙂 I have to wonder if any of us truly manage to reach full comfort?

For too long, our society has shrugged off bullying by labeling it a ‘rite of passage’ and by asking students to simply ‘get over it.’ Those attitudes need to change. Every day, students are bullied into silence and are afraid to speak up. Let’s break this silence and end school bullying. Linda Sanchez

Man, women, boy, girl, straight, gay, transgender, black, white, Hispanic. All labels, labels we attached to people, groups of people.

Schools are a great place where labeling happens, kids can be quite cruel. Name calling is a way for a student to feel superior over others.  It is also a way for cliques to form.  We laugh at sitcoms when the beautiful girls bully those who may not have the body of a perfect model.

Guys do it also, labels such as; geek, jock, nerd, and many more.  Their form of bullying can be quite painful for the reason is that it is often inflicting pain on their victim. 

All around the world at this present time the ugly head of labeling, bullying, name calling has reared itself.  It is not pretty, for some would argue they are only words, sometimes those words do more damage than inflicting bodily pain.

For me and the rest of society if we are ever going to feel comfortable in our own skin we must shed the gross habit of placing labels on each other.