Hard Candy Christmas

This picture brings back great memories when I was a kid. Most rural stores, like general stores, all carried these, hard candies. The cost was usually a penny.

Back in the eighties Dolly Parton along with Burt Reynolds were in a musical movie, “Best Little Whorehouse In Texas”. (It is risque in parts) The movie is centered around a brothel in a rural area of Texas. The madam, “Mona” was played by Dolly. There was a sheriff, played by Burt. The two were having an affair on the side keeping it from the eyes of the people. Things start taking a turn when a “televangelist” gets word about the house and begins to telecast about it. Well the pressure becomes severe and the sheriff orders it to close.

Their is a closing song where Mona and her girls are daydreaming what they may want to do after leaving the “Chicken House”.

Here is the refrain of the song sung by Dolly Parton, “Hard Candy Christmas”:

Fine and dandy
Lord, it’s like a hard candy Christmas
I’m barely getting through tomorrow
But still I won’t let
Sorrow bring me way down

I’ll be fine and dandy
Lord, it’s like a hard candy Christmas
I’m barely getting through tomorrow
But still I won’t let
Sorrow bring me way down

Source: Musixmatch

I realize that many this year are looking at the holidays as a Hard Candy Christmas. For many life has been turned upside down. Restrictions are king in most parts of North America, Britain, and the rest of the World.

I heard stories from grandparents and other seniors about the hard times during the wars and the great depression. For Christmas gifts children would probably receive home knitted socks, a piece of hard candy, and if available, an orange.

I am writing this post to offer my message of hope for everyone this holiday season. Hope has finally arrived in small vials containing Covid-19 vaccine. It is the hope that we are in the dark tunnel, but, we have be offered a flashlight to shine ahead to see the end of the tunnel.

For those who have suffered a lost, I send you my condolences. If you are separated from family the hope is by next year you will be able to celebrate the holidays together.

No matter how you celebrate the Holy Days it is my wishes that they be peaceful and full of hope in the New Year!

The Toughest Holiday Yet!

My mother passed away in February 2000. That year was tough for me. I remember when my birthday came along and without thinking I went to my mailbox. You see, my mother had always sent a card for me, this time was different, no card. It finally hit me, oh yeah she’s gone. I sat in my chair, and I am not ashamed to admit, I cried, for what seemed, hours.

Next came along Christmas. It has always been rough because I lived two provinces away from my mother. Going home was not an option, so, the next best thing was a phone call. Usually it is difficult to get through because of the load of calls that are happening that day. Christmas 2000 was another very rough day for I could no longer pick up the phone and wish her a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.

For millions this year around the world will be very difficult for many. At each table there will be an empty plate, that familiar voice will be missing, Covid-19 has robbed that from those this year. Missing will be, a father, a mother, a son, a brother, a sister and many more.

My heart goes out especially to all those children whose mother or father has been taken from them. Many too young to have an embedded memory to hold onto of their missing parent. Others who are old enough to remember them, but, not old enough to provide for themselves.

In many countries this year, Christmas 2020, has been cancelled. Restrictions have been put in place, the number of who can gather in one household. Canadian provinces are also feeling the pain of Christmas cancelled. Many will have to be alone for travel is not an option for them.

So dear reader, for this holiday season, know this, you are not alone in this stressful holiday season. Many others will be facing similar situations around the world this year. If you know someone who will be hurting, maybe spending this Christmas day alone, pick up the phone and let them know you are thinking of them.

Let me wish everyone a peaceful holiday!

Christmas Past

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When we recall Christmas past, we usually find that the simplest things give off the greatest glow of happiness. –  Bob Hope

From: http://www.cherishyourday.com/ChristmasQuotes.html

I have been reminiscing about Christmas while growing up.  We lived in and around Windsor, Ontario where we very seldom saw snow on Christmas Day.  The first time we experienced a true white Christmas was when we moved to London, Ontario in the early seventies.

I have been digging down into the chest of those memories, some are very cherished, some will just stay at the bottom that chest.

Christmas morning always found myself and siblings excited to see all the presents under the tree.  There was one rule, we don’t touch them until my parents were out of bed.  I am not sure who had the more fun, us unwrapping the gifts, or the parents watching us letting out thrills of joy over our gifts.

Then we all would pack into the car to either go to my maternal grandmother for dinner, or just go visit the paternal grandparent.  Those visits also created some fond memories.

Now I live over a couple of thousand miles from that area, but, the memories are there at any time I wish to look in that chest of memories.

It is now me who is the father, the grandfather who is helping to create memories for those grand kids of mine.  There is no unwrapping of gifts Christmas morning.  Christmas Eve day is when they will visit, I will give my grandchildren the gifts I have for them.

Christmas Day will be quiet, sharing a meal together with my best friend.  Make some phone calls to my daughter and grandchildren to see how their Christmas morning went.

So, it’s those Christmas memories that I hold onto, memories that make me feel like I am back home with my late mother, grandmother.  It is those memories that I wrap myself in when I feel blue.

Some Of My Favorite Christmas Songs

I thought it would be nice to share some of my favorite Christmas Songs.  For the next several posts I will share one of those.

Somehow music is remarkable, when we hear a song from our past we can tell someone where you were, who you were with.  Christmas songs to me bring me back to my childhood.  My mother loved to watch Christmas specials, like, Bing Crosby, Perry Como, Ann Murray, and many more.

Maybe you have some favorites, would love to hear which ones they are.  I will find them and maybe post some of your favorite Christmas.

This one that I will post today was a Christmas Special by the same name, “The Little Drummer Boy”.

So, sit back for a couple of minutes and allow the good feelings of these songs permeate your entire being!

 

Handling Christmas/Holiday Anxieties

person-holding-a-snowflake-3264658For this post I have put together some things I have done to avoid putting myself through Christmas Anxieties.

  1. Don’t try to impress people, just being myself.
  2. Don’t borrow money, i.e., taking money from rent or food money.
  3. Don’t wait till the last moment to buy gifts.  I bought gifts for my three grandchildren over several months.
  4. Avoid going shopping when it is at the peak of shopping rush.
  5. Forgo sending Christmas cards, phone calls are much more endearing.

Those are some things I put in place for several years now.  It keeps me from suffering extreme panic attacks.

Since the grandchildren are getting older I also forgo wrapping paper.  Instead use gift bags with some shredded paper.  They know the gifts are from me, not some made up character called “Santa Claus”.

Maybe you cannot initiate some of those things, but, I would encourage you to find ways that can save you those moments where you feel you are going to “lose it”.

Holidays, Holy Days?

I decided for this post not to include a quote or picture.

Mostly everyone knows the term “Merry Christmas” and they know what it is about, meaning.

Ask yourself do you know anything about those who do not celebrate Christmas? How about the Menorah, or what our Islamic neighbors observe   Ramadan .

There are many other Holy Days of different religions that I would love to learn about.

I have an Islamic doctor.  My first visit to see him I sensed that he was hesitant, not sure what I would think of him.  As I looked around the room I saw a picture of Mecca.  So, I asked him, “have you made the pilgrimage yet?”.  His face changed countenance, he lit up  and asked how I knew about Mecca.  I told him I was studying about it.  Since that day we have a friendly visit during my checkup.

So, my question is this; How do you celebrate or not the Holidays, or Holy Days?  I would love to hear about Chanukah, and any Islamic blogger what Ramadan is about.

For those who celebrate Christmas, let’s hear from you about how you celebrate, traditions.

So many that I talk with have pre-conceived ideas about other faiths. Some are totally erroneous. 

Please be respectful in your comments for I would like for this to be a learning moment. I welcome all who read this to participate and enjoy learning about your neighbors, even your co-workers.