What’s Your Value

Real success requires respect for and faithfulness to the highest human values-honesty, integrity, self-discipline, dignity, compassion, humility, courage, personal responsibility, courtesy, and human service. Michael E. DeBakey

Definition Human values are the virtues that guide us to take into account the human element when we interact with other human beingsHuman values are, for example, respect, acceptance, consideration, appreciation, listening, openness, affection, empathy and love towards other human beings.

Let me start with this statement: If you are breathing, you have value!

I have tried to recall if when growing up did I ever hear or read about self-esteem, knowing your value, sadly I cannot think of any one time that I did.

For most of my life I consider myself as a failure. All my heroes were comic super heroes. I did have one person that I looked up to, that made me feel great, that was my maternal grandfather. He wasn’t one to give hugs, or say ‘I love you’, but when you were with him you felt that he would protect you, that you were worth saving. I do have one picture of him holding his granddaughters, he had a huge smile sitting there in a pink wicker rocker.

I knew my mother loved me, that she supported me, but I cannot for the life of me ever verbally feelings like I was valued.

Before President Lyndon B Johnson signed the “Civil Rights Act’ in 1964 black people were considered less than a human being. Other words they did not have the same value attached to them like those who were white in skin color.

All people have value, they deserve to be treated as such, not like something we stepped on while walking. It makes no difference about skin color, culture, ethnicity.

When people are stripped of their value they loose respect for themselves, some begin to spiral into addiction. I said that remembering how I learned what was happening in Canada among our First Nation Community. Inadequate education, unsafe drinking water, uninhabitable housing, place on reservations. Oh yes, there has been some progress, but from my observation, it is almost moving in reverse.

When people fill they have value you can start to see their life gradually change. Their self-esteem starts to go up, they begin to take pride in their housing, and all other aspects of living.

People with value their interactions with others are what is stated above; “respect, acceptance, consideration, appreciation, listening, openness, affection, empathy and love towards other human beings.”

So dear reader every living human being has value and should be treated as such!

Being Resolute!

It is only through labor and painful effort, by grim energy and resolute courage, that we move on to better things. Theodore Roosevelt
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Resolute: Use the adjective resolute to describe a purposeful and determined person, someone who wants to do something very much, and won’t let anything get in the way.

From Source:https://www.vocabulary.com/dictionary/resolute

It was while reading an article of Chateau Cherie’s “The Importance of Confidence” is where I found the inspiration for the topic of this post. Thank you Cherie!

Anyone who as been around me for awhile will notice I can be stubborn at times. No I am not mean, or cannot be reasoned with. The area where my stubborn streak appears is when I am trying to accomplish a task.

I can point to the things that I have accomplished I can point to several things.

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  • Taught myself the piano
  • Then while travelling on the road learned to play the organ, a Hammond B3 with a Leslie speaker.
  • Learned my way around personal computers. I was working for a not for profit here as office manage. They had a computer which at that time was Windows 3.1. When I had quiet times I would tinker around the software learning the in’s the out’s of it. The lawyer for the organization gave me the push to move forward. He said “go ahead you can’t break it”. The office needed some type of fax machine, so I dig in and eventually add a fax feature to the computer. I set it up to receive faxes between midnight and eight int the morning. I began letting contacts know about it and it worked straight out of the gate.

There are many more things where my resolute brought about great accomplishments. My mother learned about how to use my stubbornness to get me to do things. All she would have to say to me is “you cannot do that”. Well that was like fighting words to me. I would set about showing her that I indeed could do that which she said I couldn’t.

I guess what I am trying to say is being stubborn is not a bad trait, it can actually be good in favor to us. Being resolute can move us forward, shakes off the fear that leaves us frozen in one place, one time, not looking to the past.

So dear reader if you are like me, stubborn, take it, use it to move you forward to accomplish great things. You will never know until you actually try!

Dealing With Mental Blocks


“Don’t let mental blocks control you. Set yourself free. Confront your fear and turn the mental blocks into building blocks.”
― Dr Roopleen,Words to inspire the winner in YOU

I have sat in front of my laptop over the last several days with the task of writing in mind.  I would start a post only to find myself half way through hitting the delete button.  I just couldn’t keep my train of thought focused, found myself wandering in my thoughts.

I am realizing that I am not alone in this way, mental blocks, writer’s block are very common even for the best authors.

Mental Block –  

… [I]t can also be an inability to continue or complete a train of thought, as in the case of writer’s block. In the case of writer’s block, many find it helpful to take a break and revisit their topic. [source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mental_block]

I found on Google some suggestions in tackling these mental blocks.  Here is what I found:

7 Unexpected Ways to Get Around Mental Blocks
  1. Freewrite. When you are feeling stuck, open up a new Word doc, and start writing about whatever is on your mind. …
  2. Tackle smaller tasks first. …
  3. Change your environment. …
  4. Learn something new. …
  5. Revisit past experiences. …
  6. See what your friends are up to. …
  7. Analyze other people’s ideas.

[source: https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/250509]

So dear reader I thought I would share with you something I am sure many have experienced. I am going to try some of the ways mention to overcome mental blocks.

Tough Times?


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My strength did not come from lifting weights. My strength came from lifting myself up when I was knocked down.”– Bob Moore

The last several days have been tough.  It has been hard just to find the effort to get out of bed.  It would have been oh so easy just to stay there.

The clock seemed like it was going slower than usual, the hours felt like they would never change.  Days melted from one into the other.

I give myself mental encouragement chats, sometimes they seem to work, other times they just don’t.

I keep reminding myself I have been through down times before, yet, I somehow found the strength to go through them.  Always keeping in mind some of the lessons that I learned doing so.

Today I decided just to sit at my laptop and summoned all that is within me to write this post.  Finding the courage to keep my thoughts in some logical order, not the chaotic ones I have been having lately.

So, I remind myself today the words of Rev. Robert Schuller, “Tough times never last, tough people do”!

Like Belly Buttons?


“The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.”
― Coco Chanel

Good Reads Quotes

Advertisements, talk shows, social media, friends, and family all these have opinions, lots and lots of opinions.  Which ones are the right ones?  Should I follow them?  Take their advice?

There are some who live their whole life around opinion of others.  I know of a person who listens to advertisements, when shopping he only buys name brand products. He believes they are the best, no name, store brands are inferior.  Talk to store managers and they will tell some no name products are produced by the same companies that produce the pricey name brand.  They may even tell you how to find the store brand that matches that overly priced name brand.

I have been lately noticing advertisements on t.v., they imply that if you don’t use their brand you must be an idiot, moron, clumsy, and more.  I sometimes just want to throw something at the t.v. when those ads are shown.

When shopping we want to be in the popular crowd that are wearing a name brand pair of jeans.  Do yourself a favor, compare those jeans to some of the ones that are almost half the price. Pay attention to the quality of stitching, the fabric, and the style You may discover there is no difference between those pair of jeans.

I found that living by the opinions of others is a high level of stress, financial difficulties, just because I wanted to fit in. 

If you have been paying attention to the news you will have been aware of the problems in the United Kingdom.  Their situation of brokering a deal to exit the European Union.  The problem was elevated all because the government decided to have a referendum.  They wanted the opinion of the British population.  When all was said and done a survey found that people regretted of voting yes to leaving the E. U..

Sometimes I have had to make a decision, kick popular opinion to the curb and go by my first instinct.

As a preacher friend of mine use to say, “Opinions are like belly buttons, everyone has one!”

P. S. – Do you follow the opinions of others or do you listen to your own instinct?