A New Interview – Angie of Mama Coffee Chat

I am not sure when I first came across Angie’s blog, Mama Coffee Chat, a blog that I found worth following. I would encourage you to stop by and visit her blog. Say hello to her!

About a week ago I contacted her about interviewing her. Below is the interview.

1. On your site you have, “Life in between cold cups of coffee and figuring out who I am.” Can you tell us how much have you decided of who you are? 

First, I just want to say that I love that you used the phrase “Decided who I am”. That’s a powerful statement.   

I have decided that I am enough. It really doesn’t matter what others think or what they say…I am truly enough. I can have boundaries, and I am strong enough to keep those boundaries in place. I am an awesome friend, I am a great mother to all 3 of my kids, I am a caring and hardworking wife to my husband of 20+ years. I have also decided that I love adventures and meeting new people (although I still enjoy my alone time!) I love testing my fears (within limit) and I love to try new things! It’s part of the adventure! Oh yes, and I’ve also decided I really don’t like cold coffee 🙂 

2. Tell us some of what Angie was like growing up.

Wow. That’s a big question to answer. There’s many levels. I was quiet, loved to play on my own. I got along well others of all ages but once play time was over I would gladly (and quickly!) retreat to a corner for alone time again. I always enjoyed school. I was disappointed if I got anything lower than an A. I was a perfectionist. I was a rebellious teen but usually tried to stay out of trouble. Something I didn’t realize until just a couple of years ago is that I was also extremely brave and strong and more responsible than most my age. I was (and AM) a survivor. I lost myself while growing up through all the abuse, like many do. 

3. Why did you start blogging?

I originally started so I could share recipes and I hoped it would help me with my mental health. I needed to try and “find” myself again. Re-learn who I am and what I kinds of things I like, not what I’m expected to like.

4. Have you reached your goal from blogging?

Far from it! If I could set a goal and stick to it, it would help. I have many goals and I keep adding to the list, but I have a hard time actually finishing. My mind is always all over the place.

5. Where do you see Angie ten years from now?

Ten years from now things are going to look much different. My youngest will be getting his drivers permit, my oldest will be 20! I hope to be spending more time at the lake in nature. I see myself sitting on the sand by the water reading or drawing (how I miss drawing!) I see myself in a place of better mental health. 

6. Which is your favorite genre of reading and why?

My favorite genres by far are Crime-Fiction, Thriller and Psychological Thriller.  I have read some great books of all genres, but few are as satisfying as a good crime fiction novel!

7. Which is your favorite genre of music and why?

The answer to this depends on the mood I’m in. I really love classic rock from the 60’s and 70’s. I also listen to Tchaikovsky and Garth Brooks. Barbara Streisand and Pretty Reckless. My favorite bands are Metallica and ACDC but regardless of the mood I’m in, I’m always up for some good ol’ Rock and Roll.

8. Do you have any heroes living or dead?

I don’t have anyone that I would consider a “hero”. Not in the sense of someone to rely on if the world was in chaos or a giant clown spider was taking over the city. In that case, I turn to God. I do have people I look up to and highly respect. There are three people that I can think of off the top of my head that would belong in this category.

9. Why are they your heroes?

My cousin: She keeps me on the right track with my mental health, always a positive “You can do it” attitude. She’s a wonderful mother who almost always manages to guide her children with love and kindness.

Oprah: Despite all she had against her, she came out on top and better in spite of it all. 

Princess Diana: An example of a true Princess. She gave her time, her heart and her soul to many people. There are too many reasons to name as to why I look up to her.

10. Why did you choose recipes to blog about?

I chose recipes mainly because I love to bake! I never really learned to bake until after I was married, and my cooking wasn’t anything to write home about either. My meals are always pretty basic because I find I don’t always have the focus to try something elaborate. Maybe once the kids are a bit older. Baking is my creative outlet. Yet it still has to be pretty simple! I share the recipes for those (like me) who don’t have much knowledge in the area and may be a bit scared to try new things. Easy recipes have a higher success rate and therefore will boost your confidence to try something bigger!

11. Do you have a favorite recipe and what is it?

This is a hard one. I’m going to have to say my favorites would be cinnamon buns and whipped shortbread.

I wish to say thank you Dwain, for the opportunity to hear my voice and learn a little about myself as well. For some, these might seem like easy questions, but it has helped me remember why I started my blog and where I was when I began. A couple of the questions made me really have to think about how I wanted to answer. My heroes, my favorite music or books…These are things that were answered FOR me previously and so I needed to really focus on hearing MY voice. It’s hard to see yourself shine through all the tarnish when you come from a childhood of abuse. 


Thank you Angie for a wonderful interview!

Dealing With Mental Blocks

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“Don’t let mental blocks control you. Set yourself free. Confront your fear and turn the mental blocks into building blocks.”
― Dr Roopleen,Words to inspire the winner in YOU

I have sat in front of my laptop over the last several days with the task of writing in mind.  I would start a post only to find myself half way through hitting the delete button.  I just couldn’t keep my train of thought focused, found myself wandering in my thoughts.

I am realizing that I am not alone in this way, mental blocks, writer’s block are very common even for the best authors.



Mental Block –  

… [I]t can also be an inability to continue or complete a train of thought, as in the case of writer’s block. In the case of writer’s block, many find it helpful to take a break and revisit their topic. [source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mental_block]



I found on Google some suggestions in tackling these mental blocks.  Here is what I found:

7 Unexpected Ways to Get Around Mental Blocks
  1. Freewrite. When you are feeling stuck, open up a new Word doc, and start writing about whatever is on your mind. …
  2. Tackle smaller tasks first. …
  3. Change your environment. …
  4. Learn something new. …
  5. Revisit past experiences. …
  6. See what your friends are up to. …
  7. Analyze other people’s ideas.

[source: https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/250509]

So dear reader I thought I would share with you something I am sure many have experienced. I am going to try some of the ways mention to overcome mental blocks.

Roads Unseen

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Image by Kirk Fisher from Pixabay 

“Truth is mysterious, elusive, always to be conquered. Liberty is dangerous, as hard to live with as it is elating. We must march toward these two goals, painfully but resolutely, certain in advance of our failings on so long a road”. Albert Camus.  Read more at https://www.brainyquote.com/topics/road-quotes

Who knew that the road of recovery would wind, snake, up and down.  Arriving at times at a fork in the road.  Which one should I choose, the left, the right.  No signs to tell me if I take such road that I will be going toward the place I need to arrive at.

Lately, my mind feels like the kids in the back of the car hollering in unison, “are we there yet?”  I try to ignore the chants but the longer I ignore them the louder they become.  They grow so loud to the place where all other things cannot be heard.  They are relentless in their persistence.  At times all I can do is place my face into a pillow and scream loudly.

Deciding on which road leaves me apprehensive of just sitting down and staying put.  I am not going backward, but I am not moving forward either.  I find myself in a deadlock with my decisions.

I should know better, I have made decisions before they turned out great, so what is preventing me from making one now. I am frozen with uncertainty.

There somewhere lost in all the noise is my favorite song of Judy Garland in the “Wizard of Oz”, “Somewhere over the rainbow skies are blue…”

Well tomorrow is another day, more time to analyze my options of which road I should travel!

To Be or Not To Be Perfect!

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Perfectionism is not a quest for the best. It is a pursuit of the worst in ourselves, the part that tells us that nothing we do will ever be good enough – that we should try again. Julia Cameron
Read more at https://www.brainyquote.com/topics/perfectionism-quotes

For as far back as I can recall I was always a perfectionist.  Some of it was to prove to my father I could do something correctly.

In one area of my life being a perfectionist helped me attain my goal, to learn the piano.  My mother told me that during those years that she knew when I was frustrated, apparently I would scratch the top of my head.

I can see that it would work against me, for when I failed at something I would put myself down, calling into question my ability to do anything right.  I now can see that I would show it to others through my attitude.  Despair was always just waiting for me to stumble and fail.

I now understand it is important how we tell our children to reach their goals. Never give them the feeling that if they don’t get it right that you do not respect them any longer.

For as long as I am breathing, becoming perfect is an unobtainable goal.  I am learning to roll with the punches!

2020 Expectations

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I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine. Bruce Lee
Read more at https://www.brainyquote.com/topics/expectations-quotes

As a child I had expectations, dreams of what I would do when I grew up. Every child has the same dreams, dreams of success, who they will marry, how many children they will have.

Christmas was a time of great expectations also.  What type of gifts would be under the tree.  Question of if we would get the present I had been hoping for.

Parents have expectations of their kids.  Some try to live vicariously through their children.  I am sure my parents had those same hopes for me.  Well, my father wanted me to take up a trade which was the farthest thing in my plans.  My mother just wanted us to be the best of whatever we decided.

Expectations do not always come to fruition, which can bring about a sense of failure, despair, and the ultimate low, depression.

This year has only a few weeks left in it.  The new year starts fresh, clean, and for most hopeful.  Maybe, our expectation is that we won’t make the same mistakes that we did this year.

I tempered my expectations quite a while ago. I take it one hour at at time, one day, one year at a time.

So, here is to expectations, hopes, and dreams of 2020!