Maintaining Mental Health

“Mental health…is not a destination, but a process. It’s about how you drive, not where you’re going.” – Noam Shpancer, PhD

To be honest I am not a super human. Lately during this recovery period I have found that I talk to myself. What do I mean? Well, sometimes the new hip is tender, maybe slow, and I tell myself, “you did this yesterday and you can do it today”. I realize that mental health needs maintaining. I cannot take my mental health for granted.

I know what should be done, things like affirmations, meditation, and getting plenty of rest. Knowing them does not help me if I do not do them. I have to remind myself every day lately that I need to push forward if I am to gain back full ability of walking.

I have heard somewhere that the mind is like a sponge, it soaks up everything, good or bad. In computer language, “garbage in, garbage out”.

Recently I wrote the post, Attitude with Gratitude and that is most of the battle. No matter I how I feel, think, or even perceive my situation, I need to find those littlest things to be thankful for. My one things is this; I have the ability to move my hip without the pain that I experienced pre-op.

So dear reader, are there things you do to maintain your mental health? I would love for you to share them with me and the other bloggers!

Attitude of Gratitude

One very important aspect of motivation is the willingness to stop and to look at things that no one else has bothered to look at. This simple process of focusing on things that are normally taken for granted is a powerful source of creativity .Edward de Bono

I have for the past several days taken and worked at my exercises. I am progressing slowly, but some of those things were things that I never thought about when doing them. One of those things is putting on long legged pants. Since I cannot bend I have to use a tool called a “reacher”. I have conquered that task and I was elated when I did it correctly on the first try.

Yesterday, I made a small step towards being able to go outside. I was able to walk down my ramp to the first landing, then making it back to my living room. I realize that this seems trivial until you have to teach yourself how to do something using a new technique. Each day has caused me to know how I took things for granted when I had two good operating hips.

For instance, I have been shown what a true friend is. I met my best friend in the latter part of the nineties. It was a basic friendship, basically cordial and someone to visit. My friendship with my best friend has grown into more like a family. His mother used to tell people, “he’s my son of another mother” when speaking about me. He is more than just a friend now for I consider him to be the big brother I never had.

During this whole journey with my hip he has went far and beyond. He has been cooking meals for me and while I was in the hospital he watched my house. He walked through the pre-op along with me which was about six hours. I tell him many times a day how much I appreciate all that he has done.

I have realized that even the little things deserve our gratitude. Even while in the hospital I always told the nurses how much I admire and am thankful for all the work they do for their patients.

So dear reader, I wonder what little things you are thankful for. Is there something that you have come to the conclusion that you have taken it for granted?

Progress…Slow & Steady

“Sometimes life knocks you on your ass… get up, get up, get up!!! Happiness is not the absence of problems, it’s the ability to deal with them.” ― Steve Maraboli,  Life, the Truth, and Being Free

Yesterday, Friday I went for a session of therapy. It was to check how I was doing since surgery. The good news was, that I had gained a ten point in range of motion, since pre-op measurements, for most areas of the new hip. It gave me the feeling that, like little Johnny, I had received an “A” on a test Then the therapist gave some new exercises for me to do to help move that range of motion even further. The whole session lasted about an hour.

All my life has been one challenge after the other, challenges that if I wouldn’t have had the attitude to move forward, I would have never attained some of the gains in my life. I am someone who needs a challenge, something to cheer me on, to keep my eyes looking forward and never backwards. The therapist also added a new challenge, it is to start conquering walking up and down my wheelchair ramp. I am looking forward to conquering that, it means my goal of walking around the neighborhood is one step closer.

My next appointment is the middle of June where I will see the surgeon one day, then the next day more therapy.

I hope that maybe my posts about my battle to walk again might inspire others to keep moving forward, face the challenges that life throws your way.

So dear reader, once again I wish thank everyone for their support and their cheers from the sidelines!

Take Time To Smell The Roses!

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Getting lost in the ‘big picture’ often prevents us from cherishing the ‘small moments’ that make it all worthwhile…”
― J.R. Wirth   Smell The Roses

On my laptop I have my screen change pictures randomly, today the picture above flashed on my screen.  This is what inspired me to write this post.

I find myself at times being sucked into the abyss called “Covid-19”.  It permeates all facets in the media, t.v., newspapers, online, and there is probably other venues that escapes me at the moment.

For many they have been cut off from the physical support, the one on one socializing.  For a senior person they may only have a landline phone to connect them to family, friends. A neighbor is staying with his mother so that she will not be alone at this critical time.

As I am writing this post I find myself thinking about some great memories that brings a warmth, a smile, and contentment.  Memories like when my daughter was born how that I held her even before they bathed her after the birth.  Watching a friend who I asked if he would like to hold her, watching tears flow freely down his face as he held my daughter.

I have been finding myself thinking about green grass, flowers, vegetable gardens, all things to ease the uneasiness that overtakes me at times.

Seeing a post from Chelsea sharing a picture of her baby boy.  How it brought a smile to my face.  Somehow babies seem to do this for me.  How simple their world is, their only concerns are being fed, kept dry, and feeling love that bonds them to mother, father, siblings, and grandparents.

I am finding some escape by watching one of my favorite channels, Discovery Science. Being amazed at the wonderful universe we are part of.  The majesty that is planet earth as seen from outer space.

So, dear reader if you are feeling anxious, overwhelmed, depressed by the current situations, I encourage you to stop, take time to enjoy the pleasures that are all around.

Stop, Smell The Roses!

My Year In Review – 2019

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Image by Gerd Altmann from Pixabay

It seems hard to believe that this year will soon be over.  For me I can think that it seemed like yesterday when my daughter and grandchildren were here for Boxing Day.

This year has had some surprises for me, mostly good things.  Some of those are something I will always cherish.

  • Cortisone shots in my back – much needed relief from pain
  • Meeting great people through the medium of WordPress
  • My writing style becomes more focused
  • Learning some more basics of blogging
  • No major emergency 

That in general is my year in review of 2019.  When 2020 comes in I will continue to allow things to flow freely.

There is one thing I do not do on New Year’s Eve, I do not make resolutions.  For me it is just something to get depressed about when I break the resolution.

So, for all those who read this may the New Year be kind to you!