“If you live long enough, you’ll make mistakes. But if you learn from them, you’ll be a better person. It’s how you handle adversity, not how it affects you. The main thing is never quit, never quit, never quit.” – William J. Clinton
I just saw an advertising where the dad and daughter were playing scrabble which lead to a pillow fight, oh how it looked fun.
I talk about my grandchildren, but I have not spoken much about my divorce, the separation of my daughter and myself.
When my first wife divorced me we were living in Ontario, Canada. She decided to move to Saskatchewan, Canada along with our daughter. That meant I would not have convenient access to seeing my daughter. She was a miracle child because her mother was not suppose to have children, especially one where she would go through natural child birth, her pelvic area was too small. The fear was if she were to go into labor the child could be crushed causing the death of the child and her mother.
Divorce is one thing a couple never dreams about when they take their marriage vows of til death do you part. Divorce was something that I would never want for I lived to watch my mom and dad go through one. I wasn’t living at home when it happened but still I felt the sting of it. I watched what happened to the two youngest siblings during the divorce of my parents.
I have lived with that regret all my life. All the important events like watching my daughter ride a bicycle for the first time. Learning to drive, and the all important event, watching her walk down the isle to marry her partner.
There is one thing that happens when you have regrets, you become stagnant, always looking backward. Afraid of moving forward in life, unable to make commitments, living with a hole in your spirit, becoming a pessimist about life in the whole.
I have found that there is life after a mistake, a lifting of the cloud on your mind, a way to get back up and move forward in your life. Learning that your life can be fulfilling, a new zest, sparkle, and hope for my future.
I have constant contact now with my daughter, wonderful times with my grandchildren, filling a new treasure chest with wonderful happy memories.
So, I can truly say, it may feel like you are stuck in the muck of despair, but it doesn’t have to be a long slog of hurting. You can pick yourself up and live a life that is fulfilling, filled with joy and enthusiasm!