Don’t Worry, They Won’t Bite…lol

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“Sharing will enrich everyone with more knowledge.”
― Ana Monnar

There is one area of blogging I would love to see used more, the comment section.  I love the back and forth that it creates.  Sharing our thoughts openly without worry of being rejected.

I sometimes receive more likes from comments I have made on other’s blogs.  Some comments are light banter, some serious, and some just thoughts about the post I just finished reading.

So dear reader, go ahead, share your thoughts, use that comment section.  Don’t worry they won’t bite!

There Is Always Hope!

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Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness. Desmond Tutu

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My story is true, almost unbelievable, yet nevertheless true.  It is the marvelous journey of my paternal grandfather.

There probably not many who can say this, I watched my grandfather go to school.

My grandfather went through at the time was ground breaking.  He had to have brain surgery.  This was back in the late fifties or early sixties.  During the surgery he died.  However, they were able to revive him.  

This is where I can remember the rest of this story.

I do not ever recall my grandfather speaking fluent English.  The surgery and the death left him pretty much a blank slate.  So, he had to learn to speak again, then he had to go back to school to learn to read and write.

When we went to visit he would call my dad, he called him Micky.  He would be excited and he would pull out paper to show what he had done in school.  It truly was something to see him be so excited.  Sometimes though he could not find the correct words, so every once in a while he would blurt ‘gd’ (I am using the short form).

This crisis we are going through is taking an extreme toll on people’s ability to have hope.  Everyone asking the same question, “when can we come out of our houses”.

I shared my grandfather’s journey to let everyone know, “There is always hope”!

A Re-blog: 8 things I’ve learned from my mental illness. — Food.for.Thoughts

1. When you’re feeling overwhelmed, you are. There is nothing left to do than to rest. To let the mind rest you need to unwind the mind. Dopamine needs to go down. 2. Don’t go looking for yourself, you are already here. I know it may be so tempting to search from (some) answers […]

via 8 things I’ve learned from my mental illness. — Food.for.Thoughts

Oh How I Wish!

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“If you live long enough, you’ll make mistakes. But if you learn from them, you’ll be a better person. It’s how you handle adversity, not how it affects you. The main thing is never quit, never quit, never quit.” – William J. Clinton

https://liveboldandbloom.com/11/quotes/regret-quotes

I just saw an advertising where the dad and daughter were playing scrabble which lead to a pillow fight, oh how it looked fun.

I talk about my grandchildren, but I have not spoken much about my divorce, the separation of my daughter and myself. 

When my first wife divorced me we were living in Ontario, Canada.  She decided to move to Saskatchewan,  Canada along with our daughter.  That meant I would not have convenient access to seeing my daughter.  She was a miracle child because her mother was not suppose to have children, especially one where she would go through natural child birth, her pelvic area was too small.  The fear was if she were to go into labor the child could be crushed causing the death of the child and her mother.

Divorce is one thing a couple never dreams about when they take their marriage vows of til death do you part.  Divorce was something that I would never want for I lived to watch my mom and dad go through one.  I wasn’t living at home when it happened but still I felt the sting of it.  I watched what happened to the two youngest siblings during the divorce of my parents.

I have lived with that regret all my life.  All the important events like watching my daughter ride a bicycle for the first time.  Learning to drive, and the all important event, watching her walk down the isle to marry her partner.

There is one thing that happens when you have regrets, you become stagnant, always looking backward.  Afraid of moving forward in life, unable to make commitments, living with a hole in your spirit, becoming a pessimist about life in the whole. 

I have found that there is life after a mistake, a lifting of the cloud on your mind, a way to get back up and move forward in your life.  Learning that your life can be fulfilling, a new zest, sparkle, and hope for my future.

I have constant contact now with my daughter, wonderful times with my grandchildren, filling a new treasure chest with wonderful happy memories. 

So, I can truly say, it may feel like you are stuck in the muck of despair, but it doesn’t have to be a long slog of hurting.  You can pick yourself up and live a life that is fulfilling, filled with joy and enthusiasm!

Bracing, Embracing – Change

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The natural response of the old-timers is to build a strong moral wall against the outside. This is where the world starts to be painted in black and white, saints inside, and sinners outside the wall. Mary Douglas
Read more at https://www.brainyquote.com/search_results?q=against+the+wall

 

Bracing Against DefinitionThe expression is generally used to mean to hold oneself against something for support (strength) preparing for an impact. However, I more often hear it used in a figurative sense: She braced herself for/against the bad news that she knew the doctor was going to tell her.

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For the past several posts I have been writing about Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. I have been working at changing my negatives with positives.  It really isn’t easy because it is difficult to undo a lifetime of bad habits mentally.

I have two choices about what I should do, I can brace against it, or I can embrace it.  For me my first choice is to brace against something.  I think it is a defense against hurt and betrayal.  Bracing against things keeps my muscles tense and my brain aching.  It keeps me from ever taking the offense in any given situation.  I spoke about it when I wrote about “Learning New Tricks“.

To Embrace Definition –  To embrace something is to welcome it with open arms, hold, hug, accept completely. You might embrace your sweetheart, or even changes in technology.

I have decided to embrace the new, let go of the old.  What is amazing between bracing against, embracing something is two small letters, “em“.

EM Definition – word-forming element meaning “put in or into, bring to a certain state,” sometimes intensive

I have been living in one certain state of mind, the negative mind.  Now I am learning to live or bring to a certain state, a mind that is positive, peaceful.  Yes, two little letters make a world of difference.

There are probably many ways to accomplish this lesson.  I feel I would choose meditation.  My favorite way is play some of my favorite music. people-taking-group-picture-3184398

Matthew Blog Of The Wolf Boy writes about trying Yoga in latest post “Hot Yoga, Soul Searching and Male-Female Friendships” .

So, as I continue on this journey I am making a conscience effort to “Embrace” rather than “Brace Against”

Learning New Tricks

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“Change is the end result of all true learning.”
― Leo Buscaglia

https://www.dashe.com/blog/motivation/inspiring-learning-quotes/

I am not sure who came up with this line: “you can’t teach an old dog new tricks”.  I believe the opposite is true. Yes, learning is not so easy as an older person, but it is possible over a elongated period of time.

Lately I have been hearing and reading about “Cognitive Behavioral Therapy”

Cognitive behavioral therapy is a psycho-social intervention that aims to improve mental health. CBT focuses on challenging and changing unhelpful cognitive distortions and behaviors, improving emotional regulation, and the development of personal coping strategies that target solving current problems. Wikipedia



I feel, because I have been exploring this trying to re-train my mind how to think, discern, react, is a doable thing.

For several posts now I have been doing a deep introspection to find new ways of dealing with the severity of being bi-polar and depression.  I can feel the affects working slowly within me.

I am not sure exactly where this journey will take me, but for now I am taking this chance!