Maintaining Mental Health

“Mental health…is not a destination, but a process. It’s about how you drive, not where you’re going.” – Noam Shpancer, PhD

To be honest I am not a super human. Lately during this recovery period I have found that I talk to myself. What do I mean? Well, sometimes the new hip is tender, maybe slow, and I tell myself, “you did this yesterday and you can do it today”. I realize that mental health needs maintaining. I cannot take my mental health for granted.

I know what should be done, things like affirmations, meditation, and getting plenty of rest. Knowing them does not help me if I do not do them. I have to remind myself every day lately that I need to push forward if I am to gain back full ability of walking.

I have heard somewhere that the mind is like a sponge, it soaks up everything, good or bad. In computer language, “garbage in, garbage out”.

Recently I wrote the post, Attitude with Gratitude and that is most of the battle. No matter I how I feel, think, or even perceive my situation, I need to find those littlest things to be thankful for. My one things is this; I have the ability to move my hip without the pain that I experienced pre-op.

So dear reader, are there things you do to maintain your mental health? I would love for you to share them with me and the other bloggers!

A Re-blog: Sitting with my Mental Illness. (A Fresh Examination). — DWalksZen – A Meditation Journal

So a week has passed and it is blog day. I updated the mindful commandments and a modified excerpt from my journal is here: Core feelings So, later I will see that realisations, I call ‘antidotes’ can treat my core feelings, if I acknowledge them for the first time, every time so that mental blockage […]

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A Re-blog: Relaxation and Meditation Exercises — No Stress

Relaxation and Meditation Exercises After a day’s hectic schedule of meeting deadlines, attending meetings, preparing different documents, and so on, you will always be looking forward to going home and relaxing. There are many ways to relax, and one method that is quite effective is meditation. How will you do it? Perhaps you’ve already heard…

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Guided Relaxation

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When I was in treatment in a morning group the facilitator would have us participate in what is called “Guided Relaxation”

Basically it is a person taking you through some steps to help you to relax. It is usually with light background music.

I found it quite effective, sometimes some would nod off which wasn’t frowned on.

With a simple Google search thousands of sites were given.  I cannot recommend anything because I do not remember any of the ones used while in treatment.

I found some on Amazon with the average price around $20.00.

So, I just thought that maybe if you are looking for some way to relax Guided Relaxation (Meditation), go ahead do some research and maybe give it a try. 

 

Bracing, Embracing – Change

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The natural response of the old-timers is to build a strong moral wall against the outside. This is where the world starts to be painted in black and white, saints inside, and sinners outside the wall. Mary Douglas
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Bracing Against DefinitionThe expression is generally used to mean to hold oneself against something for support (strength) preparing for an impact. However, I more often hear it used in a figurative sense: She braced herself for/against the bad news that she knew the doctor was going to tell her.

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For the past several posts I have been writing about Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. I have been working at changing my negatives with positives.  It really isn’t easy because it is difficult to undo a lifetime of bad habits mentally.

I have two choices about what I should do, I can brace against it, or I can embrace it.  For me my first choice is to brace against something.  I think it is a defense against hurt and betrayal.  Bracing against things keeps my muscles tense and my brain aching.  It keeps me from ever taking the offense in any given situation.  I spoke about it when I wrote about “Learning New Tricks“.

To Embrace Definition –  To embrace something is to welcome it with open arms, hold, hug, accept completely. You might embrace your sweetheart, or even changes in technology.

I have decided to embrace the new, let go of the old.  What is amazing between bracing against, embracing something is two small letters, “em“.

EM Definition – word-forming element meaning “put in or into, bring to a certain state,” sometimes intensive

I have been living in one certain state of mind, the negative mind.  Now I am learning to live or bring to a certain state, a mind that is positive, peaceful.  Yes, two little letters make a world of difference.

There are probably many ways to accomplish this lesson.  I feel I would choose meditation.  My favorite way is play some of my favorite music. people-taking-group-picture-3184398

Matthew Blog Of The Wolf Boy writes about trying Yoga in latest post “Hot Yoga, Soul Searching and Male-Female Friendships” .

So, as I continue on this journey I am making a conscience effort to “Embrace” rather than “Brace Against”

Stillness

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Nearly everybody I know does something to try to remove herself to clear her head and to have enough time and space to think… All of us instinctively feel that something inside us is crying out for more spaciousness and stillness to offset the exhilarations of this movement and the fun and diversion of the modern world.

Pico Iyer
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Psa 46: [MSG]
10a  “Step out of the traffic! 

The King James of the above verse is this “Be still…”.

At any given time here in the city I live in you can drive by a certain coffee franchise and see a line of cars waiting to pick up their favorite version of coffee at the drive thru window.

Just listening to my daughter and the schedule she has to keep getting my grandchildren to all of their activities makes me feel exhausted.

I cannot remember the last time when I have stepped out into the still of the night and the only sounds I hear are those the creatures of nature.  Or the last time I have seen the northern lights dance with such beauty that takes your breath away and stand there in awe of what you are beholding.

My best time of the day is at night where I can just be still, reflect on the events of the day.  Time to just quiet my mind and my spirit.  Time to cleanse from all those things that kept you on edge.

When is the last time you just did absolutely nothing.  No phone, no television, no children tugging on you, just so quiet that you can almost hear your heart beat within you.

Meditation is a good thing, not really thinking about anything, just letting your frustrations leave your body from your head to your toes.

So, I would encourage you to take time and be still!