Re-blog of My Code Of Honor

We should live, act, and say nothing to the injury of anyone. It is not only best as a matter of principle, but it is the path to peace and honor. Robert E. Lee

***There have been many new readers since I first wrote this post. So, I decided to re-blog it.***

An article that Vee at gave me some inspiration for this blog post.

(clarification: It was the way people treated Vee that caused me to write this post)

My Code Of Honor

  • Treat everyone I interact with with Respect
  • When responding to a comment etc., treat them in a Dignified manner
  • Always try to Understand their point of view
  • When necessary use Sympathy and Empathy

I feel that the above list is a comprehensive way that I should act with all who visit, comment, follow, on this blog.

What’s Your Value

Real success requires respect for and faithfulness to the highest human values-honesty, integrity, self-discipline, dignity, compassion, humility, courage, personal responsibility, courtesy, and human service. Michael E. DeBakey

Definition Human values are the virtues that guide us to take into account the human element when we interact with other human beingsHuman values are, for example, respect, acceptance, consideration, appreciation, listening, openness, affection, empathy and love towards other human beings.

Let me start with this statement: If you are breathing, you have value!

I have tried to recall if when growing up did I ever hear or read about self-esteem, knowing your value, sadly I cannot think of any one time that I did.

For most of my life I consider myself as a failure. All my heroes were comic super heroes. I did have one person that I looked up to, that made me feel great, that was my maternal grandfather. He wasn’t one to give hugs, or say ‘I love you’, but when you were with him you felt that he would protect you, that you were worth saving. I do have one picture of him holding his granddaughters, he had a huge smile sitting there in a pink wicker rocker.

I knew my mother loved me, that she supported me, but I cannot for the life of me ever verbally feelings like I was valued.

Before President Lyndon B Johnson signed the “Civil Rights Act’ in 1964 black people were considered less than a human being. Other words they did not have the same value attached to them like those who were white in skin color.

All people have value, they deserve to be treated as such, not like something we stepped on while walking. It makes no difference about skin color, culture, ethnicity.

When people are stripped of their value they loose respect for themselves, some begin to spiral into addiction. I said that remembering how I learned what was happening in Canada among our First Nation Community. Inadequate education, unsafe drinking water, uninhabitable housing, place on reservations. Oh yes, there has been some progress, but from my observation, it is almost moving in reverse.

When people fill they have value you can start to see their life gradually change. Their self-esteem starts to go up, they begin to take pride in their housing, and all other aspects of living.

People with value their interactions with others are what is stated above; “respect, acceptance, consideration, appreciation, listening, openness, affection, empathy and love towards other human beings.”

So dear reader every living human being has value and should be treated as such!

Freedom of Feelings!

Image by Gino Crescoli from Pixabay

“Respect other people’s feelings. It might mean nothing to you, but it could mean everything to them.”― Roy T. Bennett

My mother, God bless her, did something that was probably different than others.  She allowed us to have opinions, but no attitudes.  This was a great blessing for we became even closer as I grew into an adult.  My mother and myself talked about almost everything.  We both were open with our thoughts. What she did was she made it safe for her children to talk to her.

I have taken a page from her when it comes to my daughter and slowly with the grandchildren.  I want them to know that I will create a safe place for them to express their feelings, again, no attitude.

I probably can make a safe guess that for some they do not have a safe place to express themselves.  Fear is probably causing them to hide theirs.  Others are afraid that they will be betrayed.  It truly is a high wire act trying to find a balance in your life.

It has taken myself a really long time to feel safe in my expression of feelings.  Betrayal has happened to me, so I am hesitant at times in being open with my expressions.

So dear reader, I will repeat the quote above in closing.

“Respect other people’s feelings. It might mean nothing to you, but it could mean everything to them.”― Roy Bennett


Let Me Keep My Dignity

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The most luxurious possession, the richest treasure anybody has, is his personal dignity. Jackie Robinson

Several years ago I was hospitalized for pneumonia.  Well in the hospital I developed the flu.  I was bedridden and trips to the washroom was out of the question.  To be polite there were times when I could not wait for a nurse or assistant, thus I ended up dirtying myself.  The first couple of times I was totally embarrassed.  One of the nurses brought calm to me by telling me to relax I wasn’t the only one that had this type of situation. 

Yesterday I had to make a trip to another city to have cortisone shots once again in my lower back.  I had never met this doctor so I had to go through my entire life of medications, previous problems with bones and joints.  I know that he was just doing what is required by him.  For some strange reason I found myself growing indignant with the whole situation.  He gave me the shots and I send thank you and good bye.

I can empathize with those who are in situations that are not made by the person.  Those looking for employment, those who must rely on a Government safety net.  Frustration grows when the words “why” and “how come” keep being asked to you.  Repeating the history of your life with every new potential employer, physician, social worker.

Trying to keep your dignity intact by not losing your temper at the person sitting across the desk for you.  Not reaching out and striking them, or just plainly getting up from the chair you in and leaving.

So, I all I want when I have to sit across from you is, “Please let me keep my dignity”!