Commentary: I Am Not A Woman

This is not a post where I give my approval or disapproval to the issue of abortion. It is a post that I have been giving thought to since yesterday, Friday, morning.

I ask you not to infer one way or the other of where I may stand.


“I recognize no rights but human rights – I know nothing of men’s rights and women’s rights.” ―  Angela Grimke

I am not a woman. I do not have a vagina, nor breasts.

I am not a woman, I will never know the feelings of having a life within me and carry it for nine months. I am not a woman and therefore will never give birth, vaginal or cesarean. I am not a woman and will never breast feed an infant.

I am not a woman, so I will never have a fight with post-partum depression.

I am not a woman and thus I do not know the battle that is called a “period”. Nor will I experience menopause in my later in my life.

I am not a woman and I am physically and emotionally different.

I am not a woman and I see the world with a different pair of eyes.

So, to the men who may read this post, I hope you can understand why woman are hollering at the top of their lungs, “Hands of My Body”!

Child Abuse: Dr. Ramani on the Emotion of Healing Adult Survivors

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Dr. Ramani discusses the emotion of healing adult survivors of child abuse.

In this eye-opening interview, Dr. Ramani opens up about the one thing that rattles her: child abuse. She discusses what she sees in the field and the emotion of treating children who have experienced child abuse, and adult survivors who suffered child abuse.

“I have seen so many beautiful souls whose stories have been interrupted. My goal is to un-interrupt those stories for them and let them know it’s as beautiful as it always was and something happened in it and we’ve just given you a dragon to slay – but slay it you will.” – Dr. Ramani Durvasula

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Generational Views and Differences

Tradition is not a fetish to be prayed to-but a useful record of experiences. Time should bring improvement-but not all old things are worthless. We are served by both the moderns and the ancients. The balanced man is he who clings to the best in the old-and appropriates the desirable in the new. – Richard Steele

With all things there are differences throughout each generation. Changes in how things are viewed, perceived, and even in language terms.

During the fifties a cigarette was called a “fag”. In the very early days of the cartoon, “The Flintstones”, Fred and Barney appear in a commercial smoking a cigarette advertising a cigarette brand. Commercials for cigarettes are now a thing of the past. The biggest change that has been seen in the past ten years is what is called, “vaping”. It has recently come to the forefront that many of the vaping products contain nicotine. Nicotine just has a new packaging, still very addictive and one of the causes of lung cancer.

1971 saw a television series created by Norman Lear, “All in The Family”. For the first time ever the character “Archie Bunker” uses the term, “fag”, not in reference to a cigarette, but as a slur about gay men. The same series brought to America a female impersonator. Now that same person would now be called a “drag queen”. A man now dressing in woman’s clothes is now said, “to be in drag”. All in Family began to show a married couple sleeping in the same bed. Most sitcoms during the fifties and the sixties couples were always shown as sleeping in twin beds. There were also some episodes that dealt with rape, in past decades it was alluded to, but never was said. In another episode the character “Edith” deals with menopause. Again, a first for television, it was previously joked about as “the change of life”.

Even though some things seem to change, others are stubborn, adamant to stay in a past era. The topic of sex was discussed in hushed terms, never openly discussed. Once again the seventies bring about change concerning the discussion of sex. The television series, “Mash” was openly dealing with sexual issues, even though it was done in a joking manner.

Sex is openly discussed today, nothing is held back. Pornography was only to be found in some dark corner of a store. It is now prevalent and easily accessed with a couple of clicks of the mouse on any personal computer. Today’s child knows more about the subject than of those in my generation. Parents are comfortable talking with their children around the issues of puberty, reproduction, and sexually transmitted diseases. The topics of rape, incest, and other issues can be found in many dramas seen in prime time television.

Marijuana is also viewed differently today compared to bi-gone eras. To mention it was done in dark alleys and purchased in a cloaked manner. Possession of it could mean some time in jail. Now, here in Canada and many states it is legal to possess and even grow plants. A person in Canada can have up to four plants growing in their residence. It now comes in designer plants.

The same can be said about all things dealing with mental health. In the era of the big movie studios mental health was always a joke, and if it was mentioned at all the character was always in some sanitarium. Jokes about straight jackets and rubber rooms were very prevalent in movies and early television. Mental health was never talked about in family setting and education about the issues were non-existent.

Today is much different. Groups like, “Better Help” have brought the issue of mental health directly into the homes of America and Canada through the avenue of well produced and written commercials. The term, “bi-polar” is recognized and when mentioned most understand what it is and many will have either dealt with it or know someone who has.

So dear reader, there are some differences that I have seen throughout my sixty years of living. For many under the age of forty have only known a more open and inclusive life style. There are no hang-ups about sexual orientation, sexual intercourse, gay or hetero and mental health is discussed openly. I ask you, dear reader, what differences, if any, have you seen in your life around you? Please share your thoughts in the comment section for others to read!

Anxiety and homelessness | Ben’s Mental Health Story | Mind

Mind, the mental health charity

“I didn’t feel safe amongst the other people there and being gay… and isolated, it heightened my anxiety.”

When Ben found himself homeless, he had to deal with a system that didn’t understand his needs and how this impacted on his mental health. Find out more about our LGBTQ work at http://mind.org.uk/lgbtq

Social Media; Mass Shooters and Manifestos

We need to start identifying the triggers that aggravate mental health issues in our society – bullying, social media negativity and anxiety, gender based violence, substance abuse, stigma around issues such as maternal issues, etc., and we need to speak up about these more and get to the source of the problems. Sanam Saeed
Read more at https://www.brainyquote.com/topics/social-media-quotes

Over the past two weeks I have given this much thought. Should social media be required to report any type of postings that could be a perceived manifesto that is suggesting possible threat of harm and injury to one or more persons?

The criminal code of Canada states this:

Uttering threats

  • 264.1 (1) Every one commits an offence who, in any manner, knowingly utters, conveys or causes any person to receive a threat
    • (a) to cause death or bodily harm to any person;
    • (b) to burn, destroy or damage real or personal property; or
    • (c) to kill, poison or injure an animal or bird that is the property of any person.

Over the past several years we have seen social media companies start to act to stem the tide of misinformation. Many fake accounts were closed, others lost their privilege to use the social media platforms.

In a Forbes article it addresses the issue concerning the mass shooter and the posting on his Instagram account.

On Wednesday, authorities in Texas identified Salvador Ramos as the 18-year-old shooter who had opened fire in Robb Elementary School in Uvalde, Texas. Ramos, who had killed at least 19 students and two teachers during his shooting spree on Tuesday, had allegedly posted disturbing images online prior to carrying out the senseless attack.

In the same article they write about The New York Attorney General, Letitia James, that she will be investigating social media companies after this last mass shooting in Uvalde, Texas.

It was just last week that New York’s attorney general, Letitia James, announced that her office was investigating social media companies after another mass shooter had used the online platforms to plan, promote and stream a massacre in a Buffalo grocery store that left 10 dead. James said her office would investigate Twitch, 4chan, 8chan and Discord along with other platforms that the shooter used to amplify the attack.

Did someone miss the clues about many mass shooters? Was the writing on the wall? There seems to be a definite pattern for mass shooters announcing their intentions by postings what authorities call, “manifestos”.

Teachers have alerted authorities about students who seem to be fixated on dark violence, either through drawings, writings, or even oral conversations.

William V. Pelfrey, Jr., Ph.D., professor in the Wilder School of Government and Public Affairs at Virginia Commonwealth University. tells Forbes that, “It is impossible to prevent people from making threats online,”

He then continues,, “Yet he suggested that social media organizations do have a moral responsibility to identify and remove threatening messaging.”

This blogger leans to the agreement with the professor. Social media platforms need to step up their monitoring of such posts, take appropriate actions to remove such threats. I can hear somebody arguing that this would infringe of a person’s “free speech”. Is uttering threats “free speech”. It is against the law to holler, “FIRE”, in a movie theatre. One cannot even joke about a bomb on a jet plane.

So dear reader, I ask you, should the social media platforms step up their effort on monitoring these types of postings? I would definitely like to hear your thoughts!

Mental Reset in 5 Minutes – Guided Mindfulness Meditation – Calm Anxiety and Stress


Mindful Peace

Get help for anxiety and stress with this short and quick 5 minute guided mindfulness meditation to put the mental reset button. Anxiety symptoms can creep inside of us and needs to be set free. Take a few minutes during each day to help reduce anxiety and calm the mind. Just breathe and be here in the present moment.

I strive to create some of the most calming and relaxing online guided meditations on YouTube. Some of the most popular topics are better sleep, morning sessions, and healing anxiety. If you enjoyed these sessions, please subscribe and visit my website for a meditation guide and more information: http://www.mindfulpeacejourney.com

Please note that this content is for educational/entertainment purposes only. No information is to be taken as medical advice. Do not drive or operate machinery while listening to this or any meditation session.

All dialogue and music is original by Mindful Peace Journey. Video is used with commercial license – Thank you to Pond5 creator, ‘xLeviathanx’. Meditation thumbnail silhouette used with creative commons license from SmashIcons.

Commentary: When Words Are Not Enough

Dallas News

” I’m sorry for your loss!”

“My condolences!”

“I will be praying for you!”

Once again America is in shock, another mass shooting at an elementary school. Twenty-one lives gunned down, twenty-one persons who will not be at home. All twenty-one were looking forward to the end of the school year this Thursday.

The three above statements are the common responses to the news of a death. Statements that this time seem hollow, they leave our lips in an almost robotic manner.

It is unthinkable that parents have to outlive a child, in the course of life the reverse is what is to be expected. I have seen how the loss of a child affects the parents, the siblings, grandparents, and also friends. I watched my aunt and uncle bury their oldest daughter of eighteen years. They were never the same and the grief tore them apart. They soon found themselves divorced. I was the organist for a funeral of a Pastor and His’ wife as they said their last good-byes to their fifteen year old son. Their grief so heavy they barely could keep themselves from landing in a heap on the church floor.

According to Security.org, they report that there have been ‘304 fatal school shootings and counting”. The numbers leave the mind boggled and in total disbelief.

Even here in my country of Canada were also have seen mass school shootings. According to Global News here is the list of them:

I have omitted the names of the shooters

  • Ecole Polytechnique, Montreal: On Dec. 6, 1989, 25-year-old *shooter’s name omitted”, shot more than two dozen people, killing 14 women before killing himself.
  • Dawson College, Laval, Que: On Sept. 13, 2006, 18-year-old Anastasia De Sousa was killed and 20 others were hurt when gunman *shooter’s name omitted” , 25, opened fire with a semi-automatic weapon. Gill was killed in a police gunfight.
  • W.C. Jeffreys Collegiate Institute, Toronto: On May, 23, 2007, 15-year-old *shooter’s name omitted*, is found in a hallway with single gunshot wound to the chest. He later dies in hospital. Two teens were charged with first-degree-murder and were later acquitted.

So dear reader, if you are a parent with children, may I suggest you give your child a hug and then tell them how much you love them!

Care MAP: Dealing with Dementia

Parkinson’s Foundation

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While not everyone with Parkinson’s disease develops dementia, some do, and it can have a big impact on caregiver stress. In this video, a woman whose father had Parkinson’s disease dementia advises other caregivers to remember that it is the disease talking, not your loved one.

Understanding Mental Health with Chronic Disease

In this video, we discuss the criteria that make a disease chronic and how, if left untreated, it will affect a person’s mental health over time. We also offer helpful tips for those currently dealing with mental health issues related to a chronic illness, especially during the pandemic.

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Can body image problems affect our mental health? | BBC Tomorrow’s World

Wellcome Trust

This film explores what it is like to live with body dysmorphia and how it can impact physical and mental health.

A film made in collaboration with BBC Tomorrow’s World: http://www.bbc.co.uk/tomorrowsworld

Scientific advisor: Dr Russell Delderfield

For help and advice visit: Mind: https://www.mind.org.uk

Samaritans: https://www.samaritans.org

Beat: https://www.beateatingdisorders.org.uk

Body Dysmorphic Disorder Foundation: http://bddfoundation.org

Further reading: – Why thinking you’re ugly is bad for you: https://www.berealcampaign.co.uk/help…

Let’s Set The Record Straight -Mental Illness and Violence

I am writing this post in regards to the mass shooting in Buffalo, New York. Once again, some news anchors are beating their drum that the eighteen year old who gunned down ten people and wounded three others was because of mental illness. To be blunt, “this is pure bull****”!

Many with mental illness are more likely to self-harm then to harm others. Mental illness has received a bum rap and someone in the news business needs to go to school and learn about mental illness and other mental disorders.

I Am As Mad As Hell!(quote from the movie, “Network”)

According to The Canadian Mental Health Association there are misconceptions about this issue.

Misperceptions about the relationship between mental health, mental illnesses and violence contribute significantly to stigma, discrimination and social exclusion. Studies indicate that people living with mental health conditions are no more likely to engage in violent behaviour than the general population (September, 2011)

People living with mental health conditions may experience stigma, discrimination and social exclusion that significantly impacts on their lives. Misperceptions about the relationship between mental health, mental illnesses and violence contribute significantly to these experiences. Studies have shown that people living with mental health conditions are no more likely to engage in violent behaviour than the general population. However, public perceptions, often influenced by the media, are contributing to attitudes that have a significant impact on the lives of people with mental illnesses.

Our government, both Federal, Provincial, and local need to summon up some intestinal fortitude and find funding for the Mental Health Departments. For too long Mental Health is always the first thing to have cuts to their budget when it comes to balancing the books.

From the same above website here is what is known about those dealing with mental health:

What We Know

Estimating the rate of violent behaviour by people with mental illnesses is complex, and a definitive causal relationship between violence and mental illnesses has not been established. There are challenges due to definitions, data gaps and technical issues related to the reliability, consistency and generalizability of available data.

People with mental health conditions experience stigma, discrimination and social exclusion that significantly impacts on their lives, including fears that they may be violent.

People with serious mental illnesses are more likely to be victims of violence themselves, than the general population.

Freedom from violence and discrimination promotes positive mental health and well-being.
Media reporting and portrayals contribute to public misperceptions about the relationship between violence and people with mental illnesses.

So dear reader, time and space does not permit this blogger the luxury of doing a deep dive into the fallacy of mental health illness and violence go hand in hand! I would like to hear your thoughts and I am asking all those reading this to voice your thoughts! This is where we can have a voice, let’s take advantage of it. Question, “Do you speak to people when they voice this fallacy about mental illness and violence, or do you just let it pass?

p.s – Spread the truth about this issue!

Mental Health, Everybody’s Issue?

“Some of the most comforting words in the universe are ‘me too.’ That moment when you find out that your struggle is also someone else’s struggle, that you’re not alone, and that others have been down the same road.” – Unknown

Over the past two weeks I have posted a variety of different YouTube videos. All were about mental health, mental health and all it’s aspects.

I never gave mental health a thought when I was young, it was just never an issue I had to confront. During 1983 my wife and I were on our honeymoon in Ontario. At the same time an aunt was in the hospital. She sent word to me and asked if I would visit. What happened next overwhelmed me. It was my first in your face moment concerning Schizophrenia. My aunt was diagnosed with the mental disorder. I admit I had no knowledge about the disorder, but over the next six years I was given an education about it, the hard way.

Then came my own crisis in my own mental health. I was burnt out, frustrated, and yes, depressed. Out of desperation and frustration I took an overdose of Amitriptyline. I am not quite sure exactly how I ended up in the hospital, but I was in the mental health ward. My memories of that time are very vague, however, one thing that has always stuck with me is a movie they showed us in group, the movie, “Groundhog Day” with Bill Murray.

Mental health issues go beyond race, culture, faith, sexual orientation, gender, and even financial status. John Hopkins University writes this:

An estimated 26% of Americans ages 18 and older — about 1 in 4 adults — suffers from a diagnosable mental disorder in a given year.

Many people suffer from more than one mental disorder at a given time. 

We have all heard stories about bystanders at the scene of an incident have the attitude, “it’s not my problem or concern”. When you live in any city and have walked around the downtown core, more than likely you will meet up with a homeless person. I lived in Toronto and at first I would help a person that would ask for some change. It soon became apparent to me that I could not keep doing this. Eventually, I would go downtown Toronto and the homeless became just background noise. I have now learned with much research that many of the homeless are suffering with some type of mental health disorder. They are in that situation mostly not of their own accord, but mental illness caused events, such as, non payment of rent, lack of access to medical care, or for some, war veterans.

The question arises, am I my brother’s keeper? My answer to this is, I just don’t know. I do however, have some understanding what it is like to suffer from mental health disorder. Therefore, I can show sympathy and lend a listening ear.

So dear reader, is mental health everybody’s issue? I and readers of this blog would like to hear your thoughts on this issue!

Why do so many LGBT people suffer from mental health problems? – BBC Newsnight

BBC Newsnight

Matthew Todd, author of Straight Jacket: How to be Gay and Happy, reports for Newsnight on why so many LGBT people suffer from mental health problems.

Newsnight is the BBC’s flagship news and current affairs TV programme – with analysis, debate, exclusives, and robust interviews.

Tim’s story | Mental Health at Work

Heads Together

“It was a journey I had to go on, of acknowledging that I needed to get help, getting it, facing my fear of what people would think. I am coming through that much stronger, much healthier, much happier.” – Tim Munden, CLO of Unilever.

When Tim realized he was experiencing post-traumatic stress, he reached out for help and became a leading example for those feeling unable to talk about their #MentalHealthAtWork.

Wherever you work, and whatever your role, we all have mental health, and we can all make changes to improve wellbeing in our workplace. Visit http://www.mentalhealthatwork.org.uk to get started.

Call Out For Young Bloggers

“Blogs are whatever we make them. Defining ‘Blog’ is a fool’s errand.” – Michael Conniff

I would like to put out a call for all young bloggers. Your topic is not important, writing style will not be criticized.

I remember those early days of my blogging. Sometimes I wondered if anyone would ever read anything I posted. So, I would write sporadically. Maybe, once in awhile, I would get a “Like” and even one time someone reblogged a post of mine. I was over the moon for days.

I am thankful for all those who have shared their blogging tips that has helped me along the way. Like, one blogger shared with me how to use “Categories” and “Tags”. It has made a world of difference with my blog.

Then there is also the excitement in those early days for someone to decide to “Follow”. Once more, I would be elated! I still get excited when someone decides to “Follow”!

Now, I want to return the favor! Here’s is what I am looking for:

  • Less than 100 follows
  • Two years or less since the blog started

If you fit this category I would like to hear from you. Or, if you know someone that fits the criteria, please bring them to my attention.

I want to bring a spotlight to these young bloggers. Write about their blog and try to reblog a post from their blog.

So dear reader, I want to hear from you! Your help in bringing young bloggers to my attention is greatly appreciated